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10 Interesting Quotes About Attitude

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Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. Irving Berlin

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. Thomas Jefferson

For success, attitude is equally as important as ability. Walter Scott

It is good people who make good places. Anna Sewell

Take the attitude of a student, never be too big to ask questions, never know too much to learn something new. Og Mandino

We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. Abraham Lincoln

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. Khalil Gibran

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm. Aldous Huxley

We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be. Kurt Vonnegut

Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. Marcus Aurelis

 

Which quote is your favorite?

10 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT

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Cancelling plans with your friends to have some alone time. Time with yourself is important, too! Put on a film you love and eat your favorite snacks without feeling mean or guilty.

Not putting in 100% at work every day. Life isn’t all about work. Lots of people see being stressed and tired as a sign of being a hard worker, but you should never lower the quality of your life for your work.

Your career choices/life choices. It is your life, and you have to live it in a way that makes sense to you. Don’t feel like you need to change your choices to make other people happy.

Not checking your email outside of work. You’re not at work, so you don’t need to (unless your job description specifically says you need to). Darn Smartphones!

Your appearance. Your flaws make you unique and different.

Ending a bad friendship. You are not obligated to spend time with anyone, and your friends should make you feel happy, supported and loved – not upset, angry or stressed.

Taking a risky chance. Life is for living, and that risk could hugely improve your life – just look at entrepreneurs all around the world.

Saying ‘no’ to people. You are not a machine that is designed to grant the wishes of other humans. If you don’t want to, say no.

Not knowing the answer to a question.

Treating yourself. You work hard (maybe) and you deserve it (probably)!

HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC PEOPLE

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Everyone in the world will meet a toxic person at some point in their lives.

Liars, narcissists, manipulators and sociopaths are very good at creating drama and dragging other people into it. It can happen at home, with your friends, or even at work with a colleague.

While their behaviour is hard to understand, it often stems from insecurity. If you have a toxic person in your life, here are a few ways to make sure they don’t rule your life – or drag you into the drama!

 

Don’t gossip with someone who is toxic. Toxic people will share other people’s secrets with you for many reasons; to create drama, to seem interesting, or to gauge your reaction. Don’t gossip back or say anything negative to them, as there is a high chance they will tell everyone. If a toxic person starts gossiping with you, politely excuse yourself.

Ignore their insults. Toxic people love to disguise insults as compliments, such as “You’re brave wearing that – I’d never have the confidence to pull it off!” They want you to wonder about what they said, as it is a power trip for them. Dismiss their offhand comments so they have no control over you.

Ignore attention-seeking behaviour. Toxic people love to be the centre of attention, and often they will act out or behave obnoxiously to gain the attention of other people. Don’t encourage the behaviour by giving them attention – instead focus on the quieter members of the group.

Don’t indulge self-pity. This is the easiest way for toxic people to A. talk about themselves and B. get you involved in their life/drama/problems. Be aware of the pattern and you will never get sucked in!

Stick up for yourself and others. If a toxic person says something nasty about you or someone else, stick up for them. Toxic people often target people who they perceive as weak, and doing this will help them to realize not to mess with you – or other people while you are around.

5 TOXIC PERSONALITY TYPES TO AVOID

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Toxic people are always present in life; in the office at work, in your friendship group and sometimes even in your own family. Normally people indulge a toxic person for many years, which causes them a lot of stress and guilt.

It is important to identify people who are toxic so you don’t allow them to take over your life and rule it. Your happiness is your priority – here are 5 types of toxic people that you don’t need in your life.

 

The ‘you’ve changed’ person. This person doesn’t like it when you change, and they want you to be the same person forever. They think change is a bad thing and they are likely to use “you’ve changed” as an insult. They wish to stop your progress and pull you back into the past.

The jealous person. Some toxic people are jealous of other people’s achievements, as they think that they deserved the success more. They will not acknowledge your hard work; instead they will think “But what about me? Where is my reward?” However, these people are rarely hard working – they are too busy judging others to actually progress themselves.

The gossiping person. This person is probably insecure, and they love to use gossip as a way to insult others and divide people. Realistically this person is a coward, and they are easy enough to ignore. Do not listen to their gossip or indulge them and they will struggle to disrupt your life.

The me-me-me person. This person has a huge ego! They believe that they are very intelligent and skilled. They are likely to talk down to others or belittle them, as they don’t believe other people deserve their respect.

The one-sided person. This person thinks that they are your friend, and whenever they have a problem they seek your advice and help. However, when you are down, they are never to be seen. They don’t really care about your problems or feelings – but they like having someone around who will listen to their own personal drama.

 

If you know a toxic person like this, check out my blog post next week – How to deal with toxic people! It offers simple advice to help you handle toxic people without getting too involved in their lives. I hope you are all having a great week!

12 MORE WAYS TO SHOW LOVE WITHOUT SPENDING MONEY

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Many people say that if they won the lottery, they would take all of their loved ones abroad. People love to treat the people they care about, and nothing is better than a big holiday together!

But what if you haven’t won the lottery? Most people can’t afford to spend lots of money on their friends, but they still want to show them that they are loved and appreciated.

Here are 12 more easy ways to show love without spending money.

1. Invite them out with your other friends. Everyone loves to feel included!

2. Send them a funny video on YouTube that you know will make them crack up.

3. Compliment something many people don’t acknowledge, like their impressive work ethic or ability to always be fair and reasonable.

4. Send them a picture of you two together so you can reminisce on the awesome memories.

5. Notice and congratulate them whenever they work hard for something.

6. Be there for them when they are upset or angry. Listen to them talk, and offer advice when they are ready.

7. Make them a home-made card and write a meaningful note inside. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t look amazing – it is the thought that counts, and it is likely that your friend will treasure it forever.

8. Ask them how they are every time you see them. Always take the time to listen to their answer, and look out for any signs that they may be having a tough day.

9. Ask how their big day went. Everyone has presentations, projects and deadlines, and some days are tougher than others. It always feels great to know that someone is silently supporting you when you having an eventful/hard day.

10. Bring their favorite snack whenever you meet up with them as a surprise.

11. Remember the little things that they tell you.

12. Tell them “I love you.”

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12 SMALL WAYS TO BE MORE COURAGEOUS

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Courage is one of the best virtues a person can have. Courage – or bravery – is not the absence of fear; courageous people feel fear too. It is the ability to conquer the fear so that you can achieve great things.

It isn’t about bungee-jumping or travelling to another country by yourself; courage is the decision to live with honesty and integrity. If you want to be more courageous, here are 12 small things you can do.

1. Don’t wait for others to do things, so you can start too – be the first to start.

2. Stand up for a stranger when you know they are being unfairly treated.

3. Offer your help to anyone who appears to need it.

4. Be honest with yourself about the things you like and dislike.

5. Reach out to someone who you know you hurt. Apologise for causing them pain.

6. Tell your loved ones about the goals you want to achieve in your lifetime.

7. Take a class you have never taken before.

8. Choose to spend time with an acquaintance (not a friend!)

9. Don’t fill every silence with words – unless you actually have something to say.

10. Start a conversation with someone who looks interesting.

11. Show off the things you are proud of – your writing, your hair, your achievements.

12. Don’t be afraid of your feelings. Laugh when you are happy, cry when you are sad and express your anger when you feel angry.

 

What do you think of this list? Do you have any other suggestions? Please let me know with a comment!

5 BENEFITS OF TALKING LESS AND LISTENING MORE

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Do you think that you talk or listen more? Most people tend to talk more than they listen, and often when they listen they don’t fully focus on what the other person is saying.

However, there are lots of benefits to listening more.

1. You won’t say anything silly, or that you may regret later. Once you have shared some information with someone, you can never take it back.

2. The person who you are listening to will feel understood, helping you to build strong relationships. It feels great when you are talking to someone and it feels like they really value what you are saying.

3. You may learn something interesting. You never know what you are going to be told –it could be an interesting fact or story, or it could make you laugh for hours.

4. You may learn something that could benefit you. You could learn something that could help you at work, or something that could make your life easier.

5. People will listen when you do speak.

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20 MORE WAYS TO SAVE MONEY

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Do you wish you had more money in your wallet? Saving is a daunting prospect, but it doesn’t have to be hard work. Check out 20 easy ways to save money below.

  1. Fix broken things yourself – if you are unsure how, there is probably a tutorial on YouTube.
  2. Consider looking for a place that is cheaper.
  3. Take the bus instead of a taxi.
  4. Buy staple items like toilet roll in bulk.
  5. Take a snack with you whenever you leave the house to curb buying expensive snacks while you are out.
  6. Learn about any company benefits that you are entitled to.
  7. Meet up with your friends at home, instead of a bar or coffee shop.
  8. Buy unbranded products – often they work just as well, but they are far cheaper.
  9. Use the library to your advantage. You can learn a language for free by teaching yourself in the library!
  10. Cut your own hair – this is mainly for people with simple haircuts who just need a trim.
  11. Carpool with other employees to save money on gas.
  12. Eat less meat by learning to cook some vegetarian and vegan meals.
  13. Cancel cable or satellite if you rarely watch it.
  14. Take short showers.
  15. Air-dry your dishes.
  16. Start a cheap hobby like reading or knitting.
  17. Use hair conditioner as shaving cream.
  18. Cut dishwasher tablets in half.
  19. Check the discount isle while doing your food shop.
  20. Grow your own herbs in your kitchen or your garden.

 

What do you think of these tips? Do you have any of your own? Let me know with a comment! 🙂

15 POWERFUL QUOTES ABOUT FAILURE

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Everyone experiences failure during their lifetimes. Rather than being a terrible thing, failure often makes you smarter and more successful. It offers you a change to learn and grow as a person – although it can be pretty painful at the time.

 

Check out 15 powerful and inspiring quotes about failure.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling

“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”- James Joyce

“Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be.” – John Wooden

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

“For my first show at ‘SNL’, I wrote a Bill Clinton sketch, and during our read-through, it wasn’t getting any laughs. This weight of embarrassment came over me, and I felt like I was sweating from my spine out. But I realized, ‘Okay, that happened, and I did not die.’ You’ve got to experience failure to understand that you can survive it.” – Tina Fey

“It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” – Bill Gates

“No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” – Chris Hardwick

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” – Salvador Dalí

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan

“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” – Abraham Lincoln

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” – Henry Ford

“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It’s your masterpiece after all.” – Nathan W. Morris

“I thank God for my failures. Maybe not at the time but after some reflection. I never feel like a failure just because something I tried has failed.” – Dolly Parton

10 WAYS TO BECOME AN IMPROVED VERSION OF YOURSELF

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Do you want to improve yourself and your life? Many people want to focus on self-growth, but they don’t know where to start. Others feel intimidated by the task; they think it is too big and too difficult, so they put off self-improvement.

It is actually very easy to improve yourself, and it is rarely time consuming. Check out 10 ways to become an improved version of yourself below.

 

1. Connect with someone who you find inspiring. You know those people who are so awesome that you feel in awe when you are around them? Spending time with people who you look up to will make you happier and motivate you to achieve more.

 

2. Choose your priorities. Some people never truly set priorities, and this can mean their goals clash and never get achieved. If you know exactly what you want, it will be much easier for you to get it.

 

3. Wear clothes you love. You will feel happier and more confident, so you are much more likely to have a good day!

 

4. Learn to say “no” without feeling guilty. This may be tough to start with, but you will be much happier in the long term.

 

5. Try new foods that are healthy. Avocado may end up being your favorite food!

 

6. Declutter your home and work space. Do you really still need your old VCR player? Probably not.

 

7. Write down your goals for the next year. You are much more likely to achieve your goals if you make them real and track their progress as you go.

 

8. Spend half an hour a day doing something you love.

 

9. Read every day. It doesn’t have to be a book, but Facebook and Twitter don’t count.

 

10. Write down your perfect working day. Once you know exactly what that is, focus on making your work day more like it. Good luck!

 

Any more ideas? Let me know with a comment! 🙂