4 Things That Could Make You A Boring Person

Everyone wants to be funny and interesting, and no-one wants to be boring. But how do you actually know if you are boring or not?

There are a few signs that indicate boringness, just like there are signs that indicate that someone is entertaining. If you’re worried that you may come across as boring, here are 4 things that could make you a boring person.

Note: doing one or two of these things doesn’t necessarily mean that you are boring. However if you can check most of the list, you may want to work on your ability to interact with others!

 

1. You Aren’t Socially Aware

Some people struggle to understand basic social cues, and this can result in them coming across as boring. This is because they are more likely to talk about a subject that doesn’t interest other people. They are also more likely to talk about the subject at length as they are unaware that other people aren’t interested!

If you think that you struggle with social awareness, make sure to focus on the reactions of other people when you are talking to them. This will make it easier for you to gauge if they are interested or not.

 

2. You Are Constantly Negative

Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty person? There is nothing wrong with being negative occasionally, but negative shouldn’t be your default emotion. Many people dislike being around someone who complains constantly, and over time they get bored of spending time with someone who is trapped in a cycle of negativity.

If you think that you are too negative you should make an active effort to improve your mind-set. You can do this by saying positive affirmations, going to therapy, socialising more, exercising more and making a conscious effort to be more positive.

 

3. Stability Is Your Only Concern

Stability should be a priority for everyone, but it shouldn’t be your only priority as it can limit you and turn you into a boring person. This is because over time you are less likely to try new things, and you may see change as something that is scary and should be avoided.

If you think that stability is you only concern, try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone by trying something new. You never know – you could love it!

 

4. You Think That Everyone Around You Is Boring

If you think everyone around you is boring you may be a slight narcissist. It can also mean that you are the person who is actually boring, as you are disinterested in others and more invested in yourself and your own story. This may be very interesting to you, but it is very likely that other people find your story slightly boring – especially if you aren’t interested in their stories!

Do you agree with this list? Do you think there are any other signs that indicate being boring? Let me know with a comment!

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15 Small Things That Make Life Happier

Sometimes it is the little things that put us in a great mood. Here are 15 things that make life better!

  1. Finishing work early.
  2. Walking home from work when the weather is beautiful.
  3. Waking up before your alarm goes off, and realizing you still have hours left in bed.
  4. Being praised by your friends, family or boss.
  5. Finding money in your pocket or jacket that you forgot you had.
  6. When the elevator arrives as soon as you press the button.
  7. Listening to a new song that you’ve just discovered on repeat.
  8. Listening to your all-time favorite song on repeat.
  9. When you realize that a show you love is back with a new season.
  10. When you see a happy child or puppy in public.
  11. Having a great hair day.
  12. When you sing/rap the whole song correctly.
  13. When the sun starts shining and you put your winter coat away for a few months.
  14. When a package arrives that you’ve been looking forward to. (Today a big box of Twiglets arrived for me. Day = made!)
  15. When you think of a funny memory and you can’t help but to smile.

What small thing made your life better this week? Let me know with a comment!

4 Ways To Communicate With Stubborn Friends And Family Members

Long-term friends and family members are important to everyone. For most people, it feels great knowing that there are people in their lives who will always stick by them – even if they don’t always see eye to eye!

After years and years of knowing someone, you’re bound to disagree on something. This shouldn’t ruin your friendship, but sometimes it can be difficult to disagree with stubborn people without creating tension.

If you can relate to this, here are 4 tips to help you communicate effectively with your stubborn friends and family members.

 

1. Find Some Common Ground

The more someone disagrees with us, the more stubborn we become. If you want a stubborn person to see where you are coming from, start by finding some common ground. You don’t need to become a pushover and agree with their argument – just put the focus of the conversation on something you will both agree with. For instance, you could say “I know we don’t see eye to eye on this subject, but I hope that we can still go out for food after this conversation. Where do you want to go?” This will help to diffuse the tense situation.

 

2. Don’t Attack Or Blame

If someone feels backed into a corner, they become emotional and defensive. This means that they are more likely to attack and blame the other person, turning the disagreement into an argument, which is harder to resolve.

Instead of blaming, be honest. For example, instead of saying “You never do anything around the house,” you could say “I did a lot of tidying up last night. I’m really tired now – will you help me tonight?” This will help the other person to see your point, while diffusing the tension.

 

3. Don’t Focus On Proving Your Point

Sometimes disagreements end up going round and round in circles, because one person is only focused on proving their point. Instead of moving forward, they get sucked in and they won’t stop until the other person sees their point.

Don’t let yourself get caught in this emotional trap. Take a deep breath and focus on communication, rather than blindly proving a point. Ask the other person how they feel, and bring the subject back to the main issue.

 

4. Try To Listen And Ask Questions

Most arguments are caused because one person can’t see the other person’s perspective. If you want to resolve the issue, you should focus on listening and asking questions so that you can understand the other person’s point. The simple act of you trying to understand them should help them to calm down and relax, so that you can talk honestly and openly without tension.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

15 POWERFUL QUOTES ABOUT FAILURE

 

Everyone experiences failure during their lifetimes. Rather than being a terrible thing, failure often makes you smarter and more successful. It offers you a change to learn and grow as a person – although it can be pretty painful at the time.

 

Check out 15 powerful and inspiring quotes about failure.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling

“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”- James Joyce

“Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be.” – John Wooden

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

“For my first show at ‘SNL’, I wrote a Bill Clinton sketch, and during our read-through, it wasn’t getting any laughs. This weight of embarrassment came over me, and I felt like I was sweating from my spine out. But I realized, ‘Okay, that happened, and I did not die.’ You’ve got to experience failure to understand that you can survive it.” – Tina Fey

“It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” – Bill Gates

“No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” – Chris Hardwick

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” – Salvador Dalí

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan

“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” – Abraham Lincoln

“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” – Henry Ford

“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It’s your masterpiece after all.” – Nathan W. Morris

“I thank God for my failures. Maybe not at the time but after some reflection. I never feel like a failure just because something I tried has failed.” – Dolly Parton

10 SMALL SWAPS YOU CAN MAKE TO BE MORE PRODUCTIVE

 

 

1. Instead of working late, work early, Research says we are more productive when we first wake up.

2. Instead of multitasking, focus on one task until it is finished. Research shows that most people are actually less productive when they multi-task.

3. Instead of setting big life goals, set small milestones. This will allow you to track your progress more effectively.

4. Instead of emailing all day during work, set aside certain times to check and reply to email. This stops you from getting distracted while you work.

5. Instead of making up excuses, be honest with yourself. People are often more productive when they are more realistic.

6. Instead of making lists in your mind, write them down. You will be able to fully focus on your tasks this way.

7. Instead of using too much technology, use the right amount. Replace a social media app with one that will help with your work or your passions.

8. Instead of having a lay-in, set your alarm and make the most of the morning.

9. Instead of procrastinating, go for a walk. It will help you to clear your mind and refocus.

10. Instead of working solidly, take a 10 minute break every hour. It will help your mind to stay active.

 

Do you have any other suggestions? I am fairly productive but I sometimes have days where I don’t get much done, so I am always looking out for tips!

5 CHRISTMAS GIFTS TO AVOID

There are a lot of great things about Christmas; the delicious food, getting to spend time with your family, the sherry – I could go on all day! There are some parts of Christmas that are more stressful though. For instance, buying gifts for others – it should be easy but there are so many bad gifts.

Check out 5 gifts to avoid below.

1. The present with a bad intention – sometimes people use gift-giving as the opportunity to air personal grievances. People do this because the dislike confrontation, but it is often pretty unpleasant and embarrassing for the receiver. It can also come across as passive-aggressive.

2. The overly practical gift – this gift is totally fine if the receiver has specifically asked for it, but if not it can seem like a bit of a non-gift. The receiver may feel like you didn’t know their hobbies or interests well.

3. The gift with a message – similar to the gift with bad intentions, this gift comes with a hidden meaning. It could be a good intention, such as an exercise DVD or a beginner’s cookbook, but they can be hurtful to the receiver.

4. The gift for yourself – this is mainly an issue between couples, siblings and housemates. A good example would be someone buying their housemate a PS4 when they don’t like gaming, so they can both play together. These gifts (funnily enough) can seem a little selfish!

What do you think of this list? I would certainly be happy with some practical gifts – a new laptop and a slow cooker would be nice! Let me know what you think in the comment section!

4 WAYS TO FIND THE PERFECT WORK-LIFE BALANCE

4 WAYS TO FIND THE PERFECT WORK-LIFE BALANCE

Many people struggle to find the perfect work-life balance. The best way to create a balance between your work and your personal life is to focus on the long-term; you may have to put more energy into either work or your personal life for a few days, but over a long period of time you should have found a good balance between the two.

Check out 4 ways you can make sure you have the perfect work-life balance.

1. Use technology to be flexible, rather than permanently connected

Technology has completely changed the way we work. However, whether you use technology positively or negatively while you work is up to you. Constantly checking work emails and notifications when you are at home can make it feel like you never really left work, making it hard for you to find a balance. Instead, use technology to be flexible – check your work emails while you commute, and make a Skype call if there is an emergency. If not, put your work phone down – or even better, switch it off.

2. Treat a day off as a vacation

Treat all of your days off like a vacation. This will help you to put away your work phone without feeling guilty, and you are less likely to waste your free time. Instead you will try to have as much fun as you can, so when you go back to work you can say you truly had ‘me’ time.

3. Create a compromise between the two

Some days you will have a heavy workload and you will need to stay late, and some days you will have an emergency and home and you won’t be able to go into work. If you have to put a lot of time and effort into either work or home, put the same amount of effort into the other later down the line. This compromise helps you to succeed in both your home and work life.

4. Set a time to finish work for when you work at home

If you still have work to do when you get home, which is the case for many people, set a finish time for home. For instance you may leave the office at 5 to work at home, but your home finish time is 7. This means you can still get work done from home without losing your chill-out time.