My Thoughts On Anxiety

Anxiety is a big problem for a lot of people, including myself. Sometimes it can seem like anxiety is an unavoidable part of daily life, and I am starting to think that this is true.

I know this sounds negative, but let me explain.

Imagine that you are a fluffy puppy living with your owner. (A little weird I know… but stay with my train of thought!) You may be an animal but you will still feel stress and anxiety; for instance, you may feel stressed if you need to go for a wee but your owner won’t let you out. You will feel stress if your owner goes to the local shop, or if your food bowl is empty.

This stress is similar to the stress that humans feel, but there is one key difference; when an animal feels stress it is easy to solve the problem quickly. If they are hungry they will find food, if they are thirsty they will find water – and if they need to go to the toilet, then they will!

For the puppy that is the end of the stressful situation. This is because animals live in a world where it is easy to quickly deal with stress, as it is linked to survival. This was the same for humans for most of our evolution – you felt hungry, you felt stressed, you found some food and the stress disappeared.

This means that stress once helped us to survive.

However modern life isn’t that simple. Most of the things that cause you stress are long term issues, such as worrying about your career, relationships and family problems. It can take years to form a good career, and therefore it is very difficult to stop worrying about it.

Most of the choices that we make won’t immediately relieve our stress; if you want a good career you will have to study hard, apply for jobs and wait to hear if you have an interview. If you want to be financially secure in the future, you can’t spend a day saving and then be done – you must spend your whole life saving and spending responsibly.

This makes it a lot harder for humans to de-stress, but there is still something that you can do to relieve stress; you can measure your progress in tiny chunks.

If you are worried about starting a good career, make the effort to apply improve your resume today. If you are worried about your finances, ring a financial adviser today. These small steps will help your brain to de-stress as it will help to remove the uncertainty from the situation.

If you are feeling stressed right now, think about what you can do today to relieve that stress. It may only be something small, but it will help you to sleep easier tonight. : )

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6 Ways To Deal With Stress

 

Everyone has to deal with stressful situations. This is because sadly stressful situations are just part of life, but thankfully these unpleasant situations are normally few and far between.

However, lots of people go through times that are extremely stressful. When this happens it is hard to eat food, it is hard to sleep and you may even feel physically sick. Over time it can start to feel like stress is the only constant feeling in your life, which is mentally draining.

If you can relate to this, you should spend some time every day actively dealing with the stress in your life.

Here are 6 ways to deal with stress.

 

1. Start A Stress Diary

Make a note of the date, the time and your location every time you feel stressed out, and rate how stressed you feel out of ten. This will make it easier for you to discover which situations make you feel stressed, so you can start to think about how to avoid that situation. For instance, if you only ever feel stressed when you are with one friend, cut them out of your life!

 

2. Start A To Do List

A to-do list will make it easier for you to feel like you are in control of your life, and it will make the stressful tasks seem less overwhelming.

 

3. Shorten Your To Do List

I know this may seem like a contradiction but to-do lists can only help so much – and if you start overburdening yourself with tasks, you will soon feel stressed again. If your to-do list always makes you feel stressed you may need to drop a few things, such as a hobby or an extra commitment. It can be difficult to do less, but it will help if you always feel stressed.

 

4. Just Focus On One Thing

Choose one task to deal with, and when it is done start thinking about the next task. This can be hard to do but it will reduce your feelings of stress and fear.

 

5. Say No If You Want To

Some people feel like they have to say yes to everyone, because when they say no they feel like they are letting people down. However, in reality you are letting down yourself if you say yes when you don’t want to!

 

6. Avoid Using A Crutch

Lots of people turn to a crutch during stressful times, such as smoking, drinking or eating junk food. While I am not personally judging you for having a crutch, it does make it a lot easier to avoid dealing with the stressful situation! This is because people often think “this is stressful, so I’m going to smoke” rather than thinking “this is stressful, so I’m going to try and think of solutions to solve the problem.” Next time you feel stressed spend five minutes thinking about possible solutions before you go to your crutch.

15 MORE WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS

Stress can be very overwhelming. It can cloud your judgement and leave you feeling frustrated and upset. If you want to know how to cope with stress, read on.

  1. Make sure you are getting enough sleep.
  2. Talk less and listen to others more.
  3. Cuddle your pet. If you don’t have a pet, cuddle your friend’s pet.
  4. Plan one productive thing for the next day.
  5. Do the dishes or the laundry. It will distract you from the stressful situation and it needs doing anyway. 😉
  6. Ask for help if you are struggling.
  7. Make copies of all of your important papers and documents.
  8. Be okay with not being perfect. Everyone has limitations – make sure you know your own, and that you are okay with them.
  9. Love yourself as much as you love your best friend or partner.
  10. Stop trying to have all of the answers.
  11. Remember that stress is an attitude.
  12. Contact a friend you haven’t spoken to for a while.
  13. Make spare copies of your keys.
  14. Vent to a friend when you are having a hard time.
  15. Learn to meet all of your own needs.

15 WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS

We all know what it is like to feel stressed. It is normal to hear other people saying “I feel so stressed” or “today is so stressful” on a regular, but how can you actually de-stress?

Check out 15 methods that will help you to cope with stress.

  1. Say ‘no’ whenever you want to – and don’t feel guilty about it.
  2. De-clutter your home (or at least your bedroom.)
  3. Make sure you have some ‘you-time’ every day.
  4. Reflect on all of your achievements.
  5. Try to be more optimistic. No-one is born either pessimistic or optimistic; how you choose to view the world is your choice.
  6. Read a new book in bed.
  7. Always look out for the silver lining.
  8. Repair or replace all of the things in your life that are broken.
  9. Don’t try to ‘fix’ damaged people.
  10. Do whatever it is you’re putting off today. Even better, do it right now!
  11. Watch a comedy podcast.
  12. Stop saying negative things to yourself.
  13. Look at the situation from a different perspective.
  14. Accept support that other people offer you – don’t push them away.
  15. Smile at strangers… and friends… and yourself in the mirror!