My Thoughts On Anxiety

Anxiety is a big problem for a lot of people, including myself. Sometimes it can seem like anxiety is an unavoidable part of daily life, and I am starting to think that this is true.

I know this sounds negative, but let me explain.

Imagine that you are a fluffy puppy living with your owner. (A little weird I know… but stay with my train of thought!) You may be an animal but you will still feel stress and anxiety; for instance, you may feel stressed if you need to go for a wee but your owner won’t let you out. You will feel stress if your owner goes to the local shop, or if your food bowl is empty.

This stress is similar to the stress that humans feel, but there is one key difference; when an animal feels stress it is easy to solve the problem quickly. If they are hungry they will find food, if they are thirsty they will find water – and if they need to go to the toilet, then they will!

For the puppy that is the end of the stressful situation. This is because animals live in a world where it is easy to quickly deal with stress, as it is linked to survival. This was the same for humans for most of our evolution – you felt hungry, you felt stressed, you found some food and the stress disappeared.

This means that stress once helped us to survive.

However modern life isn’t that simple. Most of the things that cause you stress are long term issues, such as worrying about your career, relationships and family problems. It can take years to form a good career, and therefore it is very difficult to stop worrying about it.

Most of the choices that we make won’t immediately relieve our stress; if you want a good career you will have to study hard, apply for jobs and wait to hear if you have an interview. If you want to be financially secure in the future, you can’t spend a day saving and then be done – you must spend your whole life saving and spending responsibly.

This makes it a lot harder for humans to de-stress, but there is still something that you can do to relieve stress; you can measure your progress in tiny chunks.

If you are worried about starting a good career, make the effort to apply improve your resume today. If you are worried about your finances, ring a financial adviser today. These small steps will help your brain to de-stress as it will help to remove the uncertainty from the situation.

If you are feeling stressed right now, think about what you can do today to relieve that stress. It may only be something small, but it will help you to sleep easier tonight. : )

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6 Ways To Deal With Stress

 

Everyone has to deal with stressful situations. This is because sadly stressful situations are just part of life, but thankfully these unpleasant situations are normally few and far between.

However, lots of people go through times that are extremely stressful. When this happens it is hard to eat food, it is hard to sleep and you may even feel physically sick. Over time it can start to feel like stress is the only constant feeling in your life, which is mentally draining.

If you can relate to this, you should spend some time every day actively dealing with the stress in your life.

Here are 6 ways to deal with stress.

 

1. Start A Stress Diary

Make a note of the date, the time and your location every time you feel stressed out, and rate how stressed you feel out of ten. This will make it easier for you to discover which situations make you feel stressed, so you can start to think about how to avoid that situation. For instance, if you only ever feel stressed when you are with one friend, cut them out of your life!

 

2. Start A To Do List

A to-do list will make it easier for you to feel like you are in control of your life, and it will make the stressful tasks seem less overwhelming.

 

3. Shorten Your To Do List

I know this may seem like a contradiction but to-do lists can only help so much – and if you start overburdening yourself with tasks, you will soon feel stressed again. If your to-do list always makes you feel stressed you may need to drop a few things, such as a hobby or an extra commitment. It can be difficult to do less, but it will help if you always feel stressed.

 

4. Just Focus On One Thing

Choose one task to deal with, and when it is done start thinking about the next task. This can be hard to do but it will reduce your feelings of stress and fear.

 

5. Say No If You Want To

Some people feel like they have to say yes to everyone, because when they say no they feel like they are letting people down. However, in reality you are letting down yourself if you say yes when you don’t want to!

 

6. Avoid Using A Crutch

Lots of people turn to a crutch during stressful times, such as smoking, drinking or eating junk food. While I am not personally judging you for having a crutch, it does make it a lot easier to avoid dealing with the stressful situation! This is because people often think “this is stressful, so I’m going to smoke” rather than thinking “this is stressful, so I’m going to try and think of solutions to solve the problem.” Next time you feel stressed spend five minutes thinking about possible solutions before you go to your crutch.

Thought Provoking Quotes About Anxiety

 

Anxiety affects millions of people every year. In fact, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting around 18 percent of the population.

Here are 10 thought provoking quotes about anxiety and how it affects people.

1. Anxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far. Jodi Picoult

2. P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it. Danielle LaPorte

3. Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it. Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

4. People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. Thich Nhat Hanh

5. The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness. Alain de Botton

6. Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. Walter Anderson

7. You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do. Eleanor Roosevelt

8. Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment. Grenville Kleiser

9. People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them. George Bernard Shaw

10. Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths. Charles Haddon Spurgeon

15 MORE WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS

Stress can be very overwhelming. It can cloud your judgement and leave you feeling frustrated and upset. If you want to know how to cope with stress, read on.

  1. Make sure you are getting enough sleep.
  2. Talk less and listen to others more.
  3. Cuddle your pet. If you don’t have a pet, cuddle your friend’s pet.
  4. Plan one productive thing for the next day.
  5. Do the dishes or the laundry. It will distract you from the stressful situation and it needs doing anyway. 😉
  6. Ask for help if you are struggling.
  7. Make copies of all of your important papers and documents.
  8. Be okay with not being perfect. Everyone has limitations – make sure you know your own, and that you are okay with them.
  9. Love yourself as much as you love your best friend or partner.
  10. Stop trying to have all of the answers.
  11. Remember that stress is an attitude.
  12. Contact a friend you haven’t spoken to for a while.
  13. Make spare copies of your keys.
  14. Vent to a friend when you are having a hard time.
  15. Learn to meet all of your own needs.

15 WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS

We all know what it is like to feel stressed. It is normal to hear other people saying “I feel so stressed” or “today is so stressful” on a regular, but how can you actually de-stress?

Check out 15 methods that will help you to cope with stress.

  1. Say ‘no’ whenever you want to – and don’t feel guilty about it.
  2. De-clutter your home (or at least your bedroom.)
  3. Make sure you have some ‘you-time’ every day.
  4. Reflect on all of your achievements.
  5. Try to be more optimistic. No-one is born either pessimistic or optimistic; how you choose to view the world is your choice.
  6. Read a new book in bed.
  7. Always look out for the silver lining.
  8. Repair or replace all of the things in your life that are broken.
  9. Don’t try to ‘fix’ damaged people.
  10. Do whatever it is you’re putting off today. Even better, do it right now!
  11. Watch a comedy podcast.
  12. Stop saying negative things to yourself.
  13. Look at the situation from a different perspective.
  14. Accept support that other people offer you – don’t push them away.
  15. Smile at strangers… and friends… and yourself in the mirror!

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU WORK TOO HARD

Do you think that you work too hard? While everyone works on a near daily basis, some people push themselves to stress and worry from working too hard when they don’t necessarily have to. Everyone has to work – but if your work is making you feel ill with worry, then you probably need to cut back.

Check out 5 signs that show you are working too hard.

  1. You worry about going to work – once you (sort of) enjoyed getting up to go to work to be productive and power your day. Now thinking about going into work makes you feel stressed and fearful.
  2. Your email and voice mail are always full – throughout the working day people are constantly trying to contact you. You have other work to do but you don’t want to ignore anything important – so normally you answer emails and calls during your free time, as well as during work.
  3. Your input is nothing like your output – you work so hard everyday that your batteries are drained and your brain is fried by the end of the day, but you are seeing very little evidence of your efforts.
  4. You struggle to sleep at night – because all you can think about is work. While you’re supposed to be sleeping you are actually planning how to break down your workload so you manage to get everything done.
  5. You have blurry vision at work – because you spend too much time looking at a computer. You are likely to arrive early and stay late, and often you eat your lunch while you work.

Do you think you work too hard? Or do you have any suggestions for anyone who does work too hard? Let me know with a comment!

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE TOO NICE

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE TOO NICE

Most people want to be nice, but no-one wants to be TOO nice. People who are overly nice are often used by other people for their own personal gain, and they often struggle to stand up for themselves.

Check out 5 signs that show you are too nice.

1. You say sorry for things that aren’t your fault

Are you the kind of person who apologizes when someone else walks into you? Saying sorry implies you were at fault, so saying sorry when you did nothing wrong means you are choosing to take the blame anyway. Don’t apologize for things that are out of your control – instead, graciously accept the other person’s apology.

2. You often feel like a therapist

Your friends are always coming to you with their problems. This is a normal part of friendship and you shouldn’t begrudge your friends asking for advice, but there is a difference between looking for advice and simply complaining. You listen patiently and offer your friends sound advice – but they make no change, and they continue to complain to you anyway.

3. You hate saying ‘no’

Saying ‘no’ to others makes you feel rude and difficult, so you often say ‘yes’ when you don’t really mean it. From working overtime to doing favors, you often take on more than you handle to help others.

4. You always see the best in others

You trust nearly everyone in your life and you often don’t realize when someone has an ulterior motive. You are normally shocked or upset if you discover someone has been taking advantage of you even if it was clear to others.

5. You hate making decisions for a group

You never want to choose the restaurant or bar where you and your friends are going, and you start sweating when your boss asks for your advice. You don’t want to make a decision that someone else will be unhappy with, so you prefer to take a back seat and let everyone else decide.

Can you relate to any of these points? Do you think you are too nice? Let me know what you think with a comment! Hope everyone is having a great week 🙂