5 Ways To Be Nice Even When You Don’t Want To

 

In an ideal world we would only have to interact with friendly, kind, considerate people. They would make an effort to get along with others, and they would avoid causing conflict or burdening others.

Sadly we don’t live in an ideal world. Some people are rude, inconsiderate and selfish, and we still have to spend time with them. These people don’t have the same sense of humour as you, they get on your nerves and you sometimes wish you could avoid them – but you can’t.

It can be difficult to be nice to people like this, but normally that is the best decision. Choosing to actively dislike someone can result in you becoming unpleasant yourself; maybe you will gossip about them or encourage others to dislike them, or maybe you will unfairly judge them due to your dislike of them.

It is easy to be mean to mean people, but it doesn’t achieve anything. Here are 5 ways to be nice to someone, even when you don’t want to be nice.

 

1. Try To Be Aware Of The Times When You Aren’t Nice

You may find that you sometimes snap at people without meaning to. It is too late to change that reaction, but it isn’t too late to address why you weren’t nice. It could be because you were tired after a long day, so you took your frustrations out on someone else. Acknowledge the exact reason why you weren’t kind, and you will be less likely to repeat the action.

 

2. Avoid Conflict

If you don’t feel like being nice you might be tempted to bring up issues that will cause conflict, but this will just make the problem worse. Instead focus on being friendly – and if you do want to say something critical, make sure that it is constructive.

 

3. Focus On Common Ground

Even if you think that you have absolutely nothing in common with the other person, there will be at least one thing that you both agree on. Make an effort to talk to them about different things, including music, TV, sports and hobbies. Just having one thing that you see eye-to-eye on will make it easier for you to be nice to each other. Avoid political subjects, as this conversation may end up making you both dislike each other even more!

 

4. Make Kind Gestures

If the person you dislike is a co-worker, ask if they want anything from the shop when you make a shop run. If it is someone you spend time with outside of work (such as a family member, or a friend of your partners), offer to help them with a small task. These small gestures will make it easier for you to get along, and it will help to reduce any tension or awkwardness between you.

 

Minimize Contact

 

If the other person isn’t reciprocating your gestures you should minimize contact with them for your own emotional wellbeing. If you see each other less it will be easier for you to be nice when you do see them, and it means that the relationship will become a smaller part of your life. You may not be able to control the other person’s actions, but you can control your own!

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10 Things That Are A Waste Of Your Time

 

We all have bad habits that waste our time, and most of the time we don’t even realize what these habits are. I was thinking about some things I want to stop doing before the New Year, so I decided to make a list that most people will probably be able to relate to.

Here are 10 things that are a waste of your time.

 

1. Asking lots of people for their opinions about something when you have already decided what you are going to do.

2. Arguing with people you’ve never met on the internet.

3. Staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

4. Procrastinating and making excuses. We’ve all done it, but it makes the task seem much more awful and it makes you feel guilty.

5. Putting makeup on before a workout.

6. Complaining about something that you cannot control. It is out of your hands, so you shouldn’t waste time thinking about it.

7. Constantly refreshing Facebook and Instagram when you are bored (or procrastinating!). Do something that is fun instead of waiting for updates about other people’s lives.

8. Worrying about the things that could go wrong. It will turn you into a fearful person – and sometimes risks are worth it!

9. Helping or spending time with people who don’t respect you or treat you well.

10. Wishing you could change the past. It’s never going to happen, but you can change the future.

What do you think of this list? What do you think is a waste of time? Let me know with a comment! J

 

My Favorite Quotes About Wisdom

 

Do you think that you are wise? Many people like to imagine that they are, but I think that the wisest people don’t think they are wise at all – instead they are aware of how little they know!

Here are my favorite quotes about wisdom. Which one is your favorite? Let me know with a comment – I love to hear from you!

Think before you speak. Read before you think. Fran Lebowitz

Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom. Thomas Jefferson

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle

Turn your wounds into wisdom. Oprah Winfrey

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Lao Tzu

All of us, at certain moments of our lives, need to take advice and to receive help from other people. Alexis Carrel

If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. Michael Jordan

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Aristotle

It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen. John Wooden

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing. Socrates
Which quote is your favorite? Let me know with a comment – I love to hear from you! 🙂

18 Reasons To Love Winter

All of the seasons are special in their own ways, but there is something magical about winter. The frosty weather is so quiet and peaceful, and it is one of the most popular times of the year to visit family and friends.

Here are 18 reasons to love winter!

 

  1. Staying inside with a warm drink and a pair of fluffy socks.
  2. Holiday parties with family, friends and co-workers.
  3. The peaceful silence.
  4. The cold weather. Frost, snow and ice are all very peaceful and beautiful – even if they make getting to work a little hard!
  5. Curling up on the sofa with a great book.
  6. Ugly Christmas sweaters. This might just be me, though…
  7. Giving back to your loved ones.
  8. Being grateful for the best things in your life.
  9. Mistletoe (and maybe a New Year’s eve kiss).
  10. Snow angels and snowballs.
  11. New Year’s resolutions. Whether you love them or hate them, it is nice to think about lots of people making an effort to improve themselves.
  12. Work being cancelled because of snow.
  13. Sledging.
  14. Winter fashion. Sweaters, scarves, and mittens are seriously cosy.
  15. Travelling back to your hometown to see your family and friends.
  16. Visiting loved ones for the holidays.
  17. Everything about Christmas, from the food to seeing your family.
  18. The smell of crisp winter air.

15 Small Things That Make Life Happier

Sometimes it is the little things that put us in a great mood. Here are 15 things that make life better!

  1. Finishing work early.
  2. Walking home from work when the weather is beautiful.
  3. Waking up before your alarm goes off, and realizing you still have hours left in bed.
  4. Being praised by your friends, family or boss.
  5. Finding money in your pocket or jacket that you forgot you had.
  6. When the elevator arrives as soon as you press the button.
  7. Listening to a new song that you’ve just discovered on repeat.
  8. Listening to your all-time favorite song on repeat.
  9. When you realize that a show you love is back with a new season.
  10. When you see a happy child or puppy in public.
  11. Having a great hair day.
  12. When you sing/rap the whole song correctly.
  13. When the sun starts shining and you put your winter coat away for a few months.
  14. When a package arrives that you’ve been looking forward to. (Today a big box of Twiglets arrived for me. Day = made!)
  15. When you think of a funny memory and you can’t help but to smile.

What small thing made your life better this week? Let me know with a comment!

5 Awesome Parts Of Being Single

Society often portrays single people as unhappy and lonely, but this is rarely the case. Most people who are single are single through their own choice, and there are a lot of single people; according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, singles make up 50.2% of the population in the United States. This means there are more single adults in the US than adults in relationships!

If you love being single, you’ll be able to relate to these 5 points.

 

1. You Can Focus On Yourself

Lots of people get complacent in relationships; a recent survey from the UK found that 62% of respondents gained 14 pounds or more after starting a new relationship! When you are single, you have more free time, and most people choose to spend this time wisely. From exercise to perusing hobbies, it is easier to focus on yourself and grow as a person when you are single.

 

2. You Can See Your Friends Whenever

Lots of people in relationships see their friends regularly, but others don’t – especially if they have recently had children. Relationships require people to sacrifice their personal freedom and free time, but single people can do as they please. This means they can see their friends whenever they want!

 

3. You Are Holding Out For A Good Match

Most people know this depressing statistic; almost 50% of marriages in America end in failure. Lots of people settle for someone who isn’t right because they feel lonely or unattractive, but these are the wrong reasons to start a relationship. As a single, you can hold out for the perfect person who you really want to be with.

 

4. You Become More Self Reliant

We’ve all been through an awful break-up that left us devastated. During this time, the idea of being single and independent is awful, as you believe that you need the other person to be happy. As a happy singleton, you know that you can rely on yourself. You make sure you have fun, you feed yourself, you go to work – and you do it all yourself, without needing the support of someone else.

 

5. You Can Do Whatever You Want To Do

How do you think your partner would feel if you decided to go for a month-long trip to Thailand? They might not be too happy if you don’t include them, which is reasonable. As a single person, you don’t have to check with someone else before you make life-changing decisions. It is very freeing to not have to consider the needs of others!

What do you think about this article? I think there are benefits to both being in a relationship and being single. Let me know with a comment!

How To Spot A Narcissist

We’ve all encountered narcissists, but sometimes it isn’t easy to tell that they’re a narcissist until it is too late. Before you know it, you have a co-worker who is always bragging about their life, or a friend who always makes the conversation about themselves.

If you can relate to this, don’t worry. There are often tell-tale signs that give away narcissism – and here they are.

 

They are likeable to begin with. Narcissists often make great first impressions, coming across as charismatic and friendly – which is probably why they perform so well in job interviews.

 

They often work in leadership positions. This isn’t because they make better leaders; it is just because they want to lead and rule, so they are more likely to end up in a leadership position than someone else. If they aren’t a leader, you can bet that they wish they were!

 

They always make the conversation about themselves. They often do this without any clear link – one minute you are talking about work, and the next minute they are talking about their problems/achievements, such as a break up or a promotion.

 

In all the stories they tell, they are never to blame.  The story could paint them as either a winner or a victim – either way, they will still be blameless.

 

Appearance is important to them. They are more likely to make an effort with their appearance, and they are also more likely to buy high-status items such as an expensive phone or car.

 

Their past is filled with human wreckage. They may have been through many jobs and break-ups, because narcissists put themselves before everyone else (including their partners.)

 

They are more likely to take things personally. If you and a narcissistic co-worker disagree about a future project, they will think that you are against them personally, instead of accepting that you both have different ideas.

 

What do you think about these points? Do you know a narcissist?