5 Ways To Be Nice Even When You Don’t Want To

 

In an ideal world we would only have to interact with friendly, kind, considerate people. They would make an effort to get along with others, and they would avoid causing conflict or burdening others.

Sadly we don’t live in an ideal world. Some people are rude, inconsiderate and selfish, and we still have to spend time with them. These people don’t have the same sense of humour as you, they get on your nerves and you sometimes wish you could avoid them – but you can’t.

It can be difficult to be nice to people like this, but normally that is the best decision. Choosing to actively dislike someone can result in you becoming unpleasant yourself; maybe you will gossip about them or encourage others to dislike them, or maybe you will unfairly judge them due to your dislike of them.

It is easy to be mean to mean people, but it doesn’t achieve anything. Here are 5 ways to be nice to someone, even when you don’t want to be nice.

 

1. Try To Be Aware Of The Times When You Aren’t Nice

You may find that you sometimes snap at people without meaning to. It is too late to change that reaction, but it isn’t too late to address why you weren’t nice. It could be because you were tired after a long day, so you took your frustrations out on someone else. Acknowledge the exact reason why you weren’t kind, and you will be less likely to repeat the action.

 

2. Avoid Conflict

If you don’t feel like being nice you might be tempted to bring up issues that will cause conflict, but this will just make the problem worse. Instead focus on being friendly – and if you do want to say something critical, make sure that it is constructive.

 

3. Focus On Common Ground

Even if you think that you have absolutely nothing in common with the other person, there will be at least one thing that you both agree on. Make an effort to talk to them about different things, including music, TV, sports and hobbies. Just having one thing that you see eye-to-eye on will make it easier for you to be nice to each other. Avoid political subjects, as this conversation may end up making you both dislike each other even more!

 

4. Make Kind Gestures

If the person you dislike is a co-worker, ask if they want anything from the shop when you make a shop run. If it is someone you spend time with outside of work (such as a family member, or a friend of your partners), offer to help them with a small task. These small gestures will make it easier for you to get along, and it will help to reduce any tension or awkwardness between you.

 

Minimize Contact

 

If the other person isn’t reciprocating your gestures you should minimize contact with them for your own emotional wellbeing. If you see each other less it will be easier for you to be nice when you do see them, and it means that the relationship will become a smaller part of your life. You may not be able to control the other person’s actions, but you can control your own!

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10 SIGNS YOU TREAT YOUR BESTIE LIKE YOUR SPOUSE

10 SIGNS YOU TREAT YOUR BESTIE LIKE YOUR SPOUSE

Hey everyone 🙂

Today I thought I would share an article with you all that I wrote for Lifehack, called ‘10 signs you treat your bestie like a spouse‘. While it isn’t about working from home or productivity, it is a fun light-hearted read. Check it out if you’d like, and let me know if you would like me to share more of my work on here, please comment and let me know!

Hope all of you wonderful people all having a good week so far!

4 Ways To Help You To Get The Perfect Work Life Balance

4 Ways To Help You To Get The Perfect Work/Life Balance

Do you want to get the perfect balance between your personal life and your work? Whether you work part time or full time, or in an office or at home, this can be a daily issue for many people.

However, there are many steps you can take to make sure you have a good balance between work and your social life – check out four ways you can get the perfect work/life balance.

1. Understand the meaning of ‘balance’

Everyone has different priorities, from running a successful business to having children. Think about your life priorities and consider how you can achieve them. If you want to start a business, you may have to put in overtime for a few years to reap the benefits. However, this could affect your personal life. Ask yourself; can I achieve my work and personal life dreams? Do I need to prioritise? How can I make sure I achieve both, and not just one?

2. Consider your location

Living two hours away from your work means you will need to spend four hours a day commuting. For some people, this is a useful chance to catch up on other work or get some time alone. If you resent your commute, it may be because you are not using the time wisely. Ask yourself; could I work somewhere closer? How could I make my commute useful, instead of a time-waster? Would I be willing to relocate for my work?

3. Keep a schedule for important events

Some work events and personal events are both more important than others, from networking events to date nights with your partner. Instead of prioritizing one over the other set one night aside a week for each; this allows you to put time and effort into both areas of your life without prioritizing one over the other.

4. Set work boundaries

While you are in work, your number one priority is your job – so when you leave, the reverse should be true. If you struggle to switch off from work when you’re finished, set yourself work boundaries to help you. Switch off your work phone so your colleagues can’t contact you and don’t check your emails while you’re not in work. If you explain this to your co-workers in advance and give them an emergency number, you should have any problems.

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30 Small Things I Do Every Day To Improve The Quality Of My Life

Hey everyone!

Would you like to be happier on a day-to-day basis? Sometimes the little things drag me down, but if I am in the right mood, the little things can make my day much better.

I thought I would share an article with you guys that I wrote for Lifehack, called “30 small things I do every day to improve the quality of my life.” If you’d like to, check it out here and let me know what you think:- http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/30-small-things-every-day-that-improves-the-quality-life.html

I hope you are all having a great day so far! 🙂

Common Money Mistakes People Wish They Had Realized In Their 20s

Common Money Mistakes People Wish They Had Realized In Their 20s

Hey everyone!

Do you want to be financially secure?

I recently wrote a piece called ‘Common Money Mistakes People Wish They Had Realized In Their 20s’; http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/10-common-money-mistakes-people-wish-they-realized-their-20s.html

I don’t share much of my work on my blog, but I want to provide helpful information in various areas. I mostly try to write content about productivity, work, business and being self-employed. However, money advice is always useful for some people. Let me know if you want to see more posts about saving money and getting rid of debt. And thank you, as always, for reading! 🙂

4 Ways To Advance Your Career

Many people feel like they are not advancing in their careers; that they are just going through the day-to-day motions. If you are feeling frustrated and want to start advancing your career right now, check out these 4 tips.

Learn To Earn

Are there any skills your bosses have that you don’t? Could you learn these skills? If you want to work your way up, look at the job you want and consider the skills you need to have to get that job. There are many online classes and courses that cover important skills, such as how to programme or how to learn to manage a team.

Work On Important Goals

Be a great team player, don’t arrive late to work – these are vague goals that we all have. Focus on a specific few goals that will move you forward in your career, and put some time into working on these goals every week.

Teach Yourself To Manage Conflict

As you move up the career ladder it is likely you will face conflict. Many successful people can successful deal with conflict effectively by being confident, open and honest. Focus on being all three of these things to help you to avoid and manage conflict.

Be Aware Of Your Achievements

When did you last achieve at work? Doing day-to-day work is something we all do, but occasionally you will excel at your work. Be proud and aware of your achievements; they will motivate you to work harder, and you will likely learn something from all of your personal achievements.

Can you think of any other ways to advance your career? Thank you for reading my blog post! 🙂

Can you think of any other ways to advance your career? Thank you for reading my blog post!

15 Things Independent People Don’t Do

Hey guys! Today I thought I would share another article I wrote for Lifehack called “15 Things Independent People Don’t Do.”

I think it is really important to be independent in some aspect of your life. It is nice to know that you are in control, and you only have to rely on yourself!

Read it here :- http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/15-things-independent-people-dont.html

What did you think? Do you think you are independent? Thank you (as always) for reading! 🙂