How To Be Happier

Would you like to be a happier person? Most people are fairly happy on a day to day basis, but sometimes they think “it would be nice to be a happier person.”

This is because we all face unhappiness in our lives, whether this is caused by stress, financial problems, love problems or even an annoying co-worker. Another cause of unhappiness can be social media, as many people portray an edited version of their life that makes them seem happier. This can make other people wonder why their lives aren’t as exciting as everyone else’s.

If you would like to be a happier person, here are three tips that will help.

 

1. Base Your Happiness On The Things That You Can Control

A common cause of unhappiness is basing your happiness on things that are out of your hands. You can’t control everything in your life, and being sad about the things that you can’t control is a waste of your time as it won’t change anything!

Instead base your happiness on the things that you can control. You can’t make it so that you have a huge inheritance, but you can work hard and save money. You can’t change your body type at the click of a finger, but you can work out so that you are happier with the way you look.

 

2. Be Comfortable With Negative Emotions

Even the happiest people in the world sometimes feel sadness and anger, so it is important to be okay with being sad sometimes. In fact, being comfortable with your negative emotions means that you are less likely to feel them again in the future, as you can choose to rationally assess why you feel sad or angry. This makes it easier for you to think of solutions.

 

3. Make A Note Of Your Daily Emotions

If you make a note of daily emotions it will make it easier for you to be happier, as it will be more obvious what makes you happy and what makes you sad. For instance, if you feel frustrated for a few hours in the afternoon at work, you may benefit from taking a walk at lunch time to give yourself a break from the work environment.

 

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10 Quotes About Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is an essential part of happiness; without it, you cannot love yourself. Here are 10 quotes that I really like about self-esteem:

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” Mark Twain

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” William James

“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” Jodi Picoult

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.” Dan Coppersmith

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” Marilyn Monroe

“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” Warsan Shire

 

Do you think that you have good or bad self-esteem? Let me know with a comment!

15 MORE FUN THINGS YOU CAN DO ALONE

 

Lots of people are introverted, and sometimes they just don’t feel like socializing. They want to spend their day enjoying their own company, but scrolling through Facebook and Twitter can get a little boring.

If you are an introvert who is looking for fun things to do, here are 15 free and fun activities.

 

  1. Watch a classic old film that you’ve never seen, such as Dracula. Alternatively, watch a newer film that you’ve been meaning to watch.
  2. Take a stroll through Wikipedia, and teach yourself everything you can about one subject.
  3. Sit in your back garden or on your roof at night and watch the stars.
  4. Write a song/poem/short story.
  5. Teach yourself to meditate.
  6. Print off your photographs and put them into a scrapbook.
  7. Start to read a book that you’ve been planning on reading.
  8. Play a free online game – the internet is full of them!
  9. Create a half an hour workout session using Youtube videos – Fitness Blender have lots of short videos that exercise different parts of your body!
  10. If you have a pet, teach it a new trick.
  11. Write a letter to your best friend.
  12. Join a forum that discusses one of your passions. Comment and get involved.
  13. Create a full course meal with the food you already have in your fridge.
  14. Read a creepypasta.
  15. Find the answer to a question you’ve always wondered about.

Do you have any other suggestions? Let me know with a comment!

5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD FORGIVE

We’ve all heard the phrase ‘forgive and forget’, but sometimes that can be the hardest thing to do. If someone has hurt you, it can be difficult to move past that – but you should. It isn’t for the sake of the other person; it’s for the sake of your own mental well-being.

Here are five reasons why you should forgive the person who you are angry at.

 
1. It isn’t fun to live in the past

There is no point in continuously thinking about past events; what is done is done and it can’t be changed. Focusing on the past will only make you bitter and resentful, and the other person probably won’t even realize how upset you still are by the event. Move on for your own sake – being bitter is like buying poison and then taking it yourself!

2. Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean forgetting

If someone really hurt you, you don’t have to forgive them and become friends again. Maybe they let you down or broke your trust – either way you don’t have to be their friend again. You are forgiving them for your own happiness, not for theirs.

3. Everyone makes mistakes

Everyone gets caught up in a lie or a mistake at one point in their lives. Often these events can escalate and build, and a good person can end up doing something bad. No-one is perfect!

4. Compassion is important

At some point in your life, you will have wished that someone offered you compassion and understanding. Compassion isn’t a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength and love.

5. Because you deserve to be happy

Simple but true!

“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!” – C. JoyBell C

5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE

Do you have a negative friend in your life? Sadly, most people have a friendship with someone negative, even though they dislike their negativity. If this sounds like you, it might be time to end the friendship for your own benefit.

Here are 5 reasons why you should avoid negative people.

Negative people can change your mind-set. If you repeatedly ask for feedback from a negative person, you will start to see the problem in the same negative light. This is likely to make you feel worried and stressed – but it won’t help you to solve the problem.

Negative people can drain your energy. Even the most optimistic, enthusiastic people can get bogged down by a conversation with a negative person. The conversations will often be based around problems and obstacles in their life – and rather than looking for a solution, they simply enjoy complaining.

It is hard to get rid of negative people. Often people struggle to get rid of the negative people in their life because of a sense of loyalty, but it is more important to be loyal to your happiness.

Negative people won’t encourage you. Life is tough, and when you are going through a hard time you will need people to encourage you and support you – the last thing you need is people who discourage you for no obvious reason.

Negative people love drama. It makes their lives seem interesting and they can relish in their own misfortune. There is also a chance that you will eventually become entangled in the drama.

15 WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS

We all know what it is like to feel stressed. It is normal to hear other people saying “I feel so stressed” or “today is so stressful” on a regular, but how can you actually de-stress?

Check out 15 methods that will help you to cope with stress.

  1. Say ‘no’ whenever you want to – and don’t feel guilty about it.
  2. De-clutter your home (or at least your bedroom.)
  3. Make sure you have some ‘you-time’ every day.
  4. Reflect on all of your achievements.
  5. Try to be more optimistic. No-one is born either pessimistic or optimistic; how you choose to view the world is your choice.
  6. Read a new book in bed.
  7. Always look out for the silver lining.
  8. Repair or replace all of the things in your life that are broken.
  9. Don’t try to ‘fix’ damaged people.
  10. Do whatever it is you’re putting off today. Even better, do it right now!
  11. Watch a comedy podcast.
  12. Stop saying negative things to yourself.
  13. Look at the situation from a different perspective.
  14. Accept support that other people offer you – don’t push them away.
  15. Smile at strangers… and friends… and yourself in the mirror!

5 SIGNS THAT INDICATE THAT YOUR LIFE IS IN A RUT

Everyone has a comfort zone, and leaving the comfort zone can be a very scary idea. However, people who choose to push themselves out of their comfort zone to take risks are often rewarded.

 

Check out 5 signs that show your life is stuck in a rut.

 

Your life has become stagnant. Your day-to-day life has been the same for a long time now, and there is no sign of growth or change on the horizon. You do not actively dislike your life, but you have become bored by it.

 

You can’t remember when you last tried something new. You are not sure when you last felt challenged. You also no longer seek out challenges, and instead choose to relax and watch the days go by.

 

You automatically say “no” to anything that is inconvenient, time-consuming or new.

 

You are not as happy as you used to be. Your life is effectively going fine; you have a job and friends, and everything is working as it should. Despite this, you do not feel as happy as you used to do, because your life feels mundane and normal, rather than unique and exciting.

 

You doubt yourself. You question how capable you are, and this self-doubt often affects your decisions. You associate complacency with being content, and taking risks with danger.

 

Do you think that you doubt yourself, or do you regularly venture out of your comfort zone? Let me know with a comment! 🙂