How To Make Friends

Do you want to make new friends? If you do, you’re not alone. There are lots of reasons why people want to make friends, such as;

  • They moved to a new city and they don’t know anyone yet.
  • Most of their friends moved away for work or University.
  • They have been in a long term relationship for a long time and they let their friends drop out of the picture.
  • They feel like they have nothing in common with their current friends.
  • They used to enjoy being alone, but now they often feel lonely and they would like someone to reach out to.
  • Whatever your reason, it is easy to make friends if you try. Here 6 tips to help you make new friends.

 

1. Think About What Kind Of Friends You Want

Before you get out there and try to actively make friends, it can be useful to think about why you need new friends. Do you want someone to go out dancing with at the weekend? Do you want new friends because you are lonely? Do you want a friend you can go to the gym with? This will help you to decide where to look for new friends, so that you find the right people for you.

 

2. Spend Time With People Who Have Lots Of Friends

One of the easiest ways to meet new people in a relaxed setting is to hang around with someone who already has a lot of friends. Think about your current friends and acquaintances; do you know anyone who is a social butterfly, or who is popular in certain circles?

 

3. Look For Friends At Work Or School

The people you spend the most time with are normally work colleagues or classmates.  Do you already have a connection with one of your classmates or colleagues, such as a shared interest in spots? If so, make the effort to ask them to hang out after work. If that idea makes you feel nervous, you can take the pressure off by organizing a group hangout with your colleagues or classmates.

 

4. Join Meet Up Pages And Social Networks

Have a look online and see if your city has a meet-up page. Most cities do, and people can join these pages to go to meet-ups with other people with shared interests. For example, my city offers a meet-up page with different categories for different people, including “nights out and drinking”, “book lovers” and “freelancers.”

 

5. Don’t forget to keep in touch

We often meet people who we get along well with, but we don’t follow up on the connection. If you meet someone who you get along with, make the effort to get their number or add them on social media. This way you can speak further – you could even arrange to meet up.

 

6. Look Back At Your Old Friendships

Most people have an old friendship that has faded, but they would like to re-start the friendship. Think about your old friends; do you miss any of them? If so, take the initiative to get back in contact with them. It is likely that the other person feels the same way, so this is an easy way to form a friendship.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

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How To Spot A Narcissist

We’ve all encountered narcissists, but sometimes it isn’t easy to tell that they’re a narcissist until it is too late. Before you know it, you have a co-worker who is always bragging about their life, or a friend who always makes the conversation about themselves.

If you can relate to this, don’t worry. There are often tell-tale signs that give away narcissism – and here they are.

 

They are likeable to begin with. Narcissists often make great first impressions, coming across as charismatic and friendly – which is probably why they perform so well in job interviews.

 

They often work in leadership positions. This isn’t because they make better leaders; it is just because they want to lead and rule, so they are more likely to end up in a leadership position than someone else. If they aren’t a leader, you can bet that they wish they were!

 

They always make the conversation about themselves. They often do this without any clear link – one minute you are talking about work, and the next minute they are talking about their problems/achievements, such as a break up or a promotion.

 

In all the stories they tell, they are never to blame.  The story could paint them as either a winner or a victim – either way, they will still be blameless.

 

Appearance is important to them. They are more likely to make an effort with their appearance, and they are also more likely to buy high-status items such as an expensive phone or car.

 

Their past is filled with human wreckage. They may have been through many jobs and break-ups, because narcissists put themselves before everyone else (including their partners.)

 

They are more likely to take things personally. If you and a narcissistic co-worker disagree about a future project, they will think that you are against them personally, instead of accepting that you both have different ideas.

 

What do you think about these points? Do you know a narcissist?

20 QUOTES TO MOTIVATE YOU

Quotes from successful leaders, inventors and entrepreneurs can inspire and motivate us to work towards our own dreams and goals. Part of success is your mind-set; successful people are focused and driven, so check out 20 quotes to help motivate you.

1. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” -Wayne Dyer

2. “Nothing in the world is more common than unsuccessful people with talent.” -Anonymous

3. “I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.” -Thomas Jefferson

4. “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

5. “Your problem isn’t the problem. Your reaction is the problem.” -Anonymous

6. “You can do anything, but not everything. -Anonymous

7. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out.” -Robert Collier

8. “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” -Pablo Picasso

9. “We become what we think about most of the time, and that’s the strangest secret.” -Earl Nightingale

10. “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” -Maya Angelou

11. “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn

12. “Real difficulties can be overcome; it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” -Theodore N. Vail

13. “When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.” -Lolly Daskal

14. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear–not absence of fear.” -Mark Twain

15. “If you genuinely want something, don’t wait for it–teach yourself to be impatient.” -Gurbaksh Chahal

16. “To be successful you must accept all challenges that come your way. You can’t just accept the ones you like.” -Mike Gafka

17. “The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.” -Denis Waitley

18. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” -Dale Carnegie

19. “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” -Truman Capote

20. “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” -Herman Melville

4 WEIRD DISTRACTIONS YOU FACE WHEN YOU WORK FROM HOME PART TWO

4 WEIRD DISTRACTIONS YOU FACE WHEN YOU WORK FROM HOME PART TWO

Do you work from home? Working from home opens up a whole new world of strange distractions, from chairs that are too comfortable to life admin you need to catch up on.

Check out 4 weird distractions you may have faced if you work from home.

1. Your Pets

Every day, at some point while you work, your pet will come up to you and try to get your attention. They could want food, letting outside, a stroke, or simply your attention, but you always end up giving in and giving them what they what. They are too cute to ignore – unlike the seven work emails you need to reply to.

2. Any Food In The House

There is delicious food in your cupboards and fridge, and you could be eating it right now. Maybe you will go make yourself a little healthy snack, like a sandwich or a salad. You travel to the kitchen, and spend fifteen minutes looking in your fridge and cupboard- only to settle on toast.

3. How Clean Your House Is

The floor in your bedroom needs vacuuming, and you’ve just noticed that your office desk has a few crumbs on it. The thing is – you never notice any of the mess until you’re supposed to be doing work. You quickly wipe the crumbs off the desk and try not to think about your bedroom floor. You try even harder to not think about all the dirty dishes and laundry.

4. The Internet

The only reason why you went on Youtube was to put some good background music on, but the recommended video was cute kittens – you HAD to click on it. The only thing is, that was over an hour ago – now you’re reading about different cat breeds on Wikipedia while searching cat hashtags on Instagram.

What did you guys think of this follow-up piece? I thought I would write another post about distractions you can be faced with when you work from home as I really enjoyed writing the last piece. Let me know if you can think of any other distractions that I could be faced with when I work from home!

4 WEIRD DISTRACTIONS YOU FACE WHEN YOU WORK FROM HOME

4 WEIRD DISTRACTIONS YOU FACE WHEN YOU WORK FROM HOME

Do you work from home? There can be many strange and surprising distractions in the home, from social media to the kitchen chairs. Sometimes it can just be too difficult to stay focused; check out four of the biggest distractions you face when you work from home.

1. Life Admin

The second you open up your laptop, you remember all of the general jobs you were putting off over the weekend. You need to email your landlord about the problem with the boiler, and you need to call your parents because it’s been over a month since you last spoke to them. You’ll just give them a quick call now, and get straight on with your work afterwards…. Oh, after you’ve given your best friend a ring. After all, it’s been two whole days since you last spoke to them.

2. The Comfort Level Of Your Chair

Or at least, the lack of comfort. The chair in the kitchen is far too hard and unforgiving to sit on for eight hours, but the chair in your bedroom is way too comfortable and squishy for you to stay focussed. You normally sit in your office chair, but that chair just started creaking loudly whenever you move.

3. The TV Show You’re Currently Watching

You’ve just started the second season of Orange Is The New Black and you’re totally hooked. After a few hours of working, your mind slips to the last episode you watched. You just need to watch one episode to see what the next part of the story will be – maybe you will watch one while you eat lunch. Just the one, of course….

4. Your Office Options

When you work from home, you can basically work wherever you want to in the house. Yes, your office is quiet and peaceful, but the kitchen is so warm and sunny in the morning. And the sofa is so comfy after a long morning sat on the uncomfortable kitchen chair – but it provides you with a whole new distraction; the TV.

What did you guys think of this post? Just so you know, I don’t normally struggle to focus on work once I’ve started, but these distractions have all tempted me at least a few times! Especially that kitchen chair. 😉

5 Ways To Help You To Get The Perfect Work Life Balance Part 2

5 Ways To Help You To Get The Perfect Work/Life Balance Part 2

Do you struggle to find a good balance between work and play? Many people either work too hard or relax too much, and they struggle to change their lifestyles. If you struggle to find the perfect work/life balance, check out 5 more ways you can find the perfect work balance.

1. Limit your work hours

Working extremely long hours isn’t good for your mental health – or your family’s mental health. However, some people have to work longer hours – maybe they are starting their own business, or they run a company. If this is you, set out your work hours at the beginning of the week. Make sure you work 8 hours at least one day of the week every week – if you work late on the other days, you should have no work issues, and this can be something for your family to rely on.

2. Work with your personal energy

We all have natural energy cycles; some people work better first thing in the morning, while others get all of their best work done during the night. Think about when you are most productive and try to work for a few hours during this time. As you will be feeling extra productive and motivated, you will complete more work than normal during this time, freeing up time at different points in the day.

3. Delegate tasks

If you really struggle to take time off work, you may need to delegate some of your tasks to others. From hiring an assistant at work to paying a cleaner to clean your house once a week, these methods can help you to focus on your most important work while still having some time to yourself.

4. Plan a holiday

No matter how busy you are, you can afford to take a few days off a year through delegating tasks. Time off will relax your body and mind, making you a more efficient worker generally. If you can’t afford to take a week off work, book one day off and make plans with your loved ones for the day. This will help you to enjoy your life while refocusing and recharging.

5. Join a club

If you work so often you struggle to maintain friendships, consider joining a club. This will help you to enjoy your time off while also offering you the opportunity to socialize. There are various clubs, from cooking to swimming – have a look and see if anything takes your fancy!

Do you have any advice for anyone who is hoping to find a better balance between their work and their personal life? Comment your ideas below! 🙂

We Debunk 5 Popular Myths About Working From Home

We Debunk 4 Common Myths About Working From Home

Do you work from home? If you do, you may have encountered these common myths about working from home. Here we debunk 4 of the most popular myths surrounding working from home.

The myth – There isn’t much money in working from home.

The truth – There are many legitimate websites offering jobs you can do from home, such as Odesk or Elance. The pay may not be great to start with, but if you work diligently and build up a portfolio, you can decide how much you want to charge. Being freelance means you can choose your own rates – but if they aren’t realistic, you may not get many clients.

The myth – It is difficult to stay focused while working from home.

The truth – It can always be difficult to focus on work, whether you work from home or in an office! If you have an office area you only use for work, getting dressed in the morning and sitting in your work space will often get the creative juices flowing. If you’re still struggle to focus, social media can be the devil – but most freelancers I know love their jobs too much to stay distracted for too long.

The myth – Most work from home jobs are scams.

The truth – There are thousands of scam jobs online – and thousands of legitimate jobs, too. Peopleperhour offers legitimate jobs, and you can find clients in your area who are willing to pay you real money for your work.

The myth – My clients won’t take me seriously if I work from home.

The truth – As long as the product you’re creating is good, your clients won’t care where you’re working from. It is very rare you will even discuss your working environment with clients – normally you will only discuss the work you are completing for them, just as you would in an office environment.

Do you work from home? What are the most common misconceptions about working from home that you have heard? Comment your suggestions below!