How To Be Happier

Would you like to be a happier person? Most people are fairly happy on a day to day basis, but sometimes they think “it would be nice to be a happier person.”

This is because we all face unhappiness in our lives, whether this is caused by stress, financial problems, love problems or even an annoying co-worker. Another cause of unhappiness can be social media, as many people portray an edited version of their life that makes them seem happier. This can make other people wonder why their lives aren’t as exciting as everyone else’s.

If you would like to be a happier person, here are three tips that will help.

 

1. Base Your Happiness On The Things That You Can Control

A common cause of unhappiness is basing your happiness on things that are out of your hands. You can’t control everything in your life, and being sad about the things that you can’t control is a waste of your time as it won’t change anything!

Instead base your happiness on the things that you can control. You can’t make it so that you have a huge inheritance, but you can work hard and save money. You can’t change your body type at the click of a finger, but you can work out so that you are happier with the way you look.

 

2. Be Comfortable With Negative Emotions

Even the happiest people in the world sometimes feel sadness and anger, so it is important to be okay with being sad sometimes. In fact, being comfortable with your negative emotions means that you are less likely to feel them again in the future, as you can choose to rationally assess why you feel sad or angry. This makes it easier for you to think of solutions.

 

3. Make A Note Of Your Daily Emotions

If you make a note of daily emotions it will make it easier for you to be happier, as it will be more obvious what makes you happy and what makes you sad. For instance, if you feel frustrated for a few hours in the afternoon at work, you may benefit from taking a walk at lunch time to give yourself a break from the work environment.

 

Signs Of Verbal Abuse

When many people hear the word abuse, they think about physical abuse such as hitting, slapping or punching. However verbal abuse is more common than physical abuse, and it can be just as damaging as physical abuse.

One of the main problems with verbal abuse is that many people aren’t aware that they are being verbally abused. Instead they believe that the abuse is a reasonable reaction to their own behaviour, which can destroy their confidence and self-esteem over time.

Here are 10 clear signs of verbal abuse.

1. Withholding information. They don’t express their thoughts or feelings with you, but they expect you to share your feelings with them.

2. They constantly counter your points. They often disagree with your opinion and berate you. For instance if you enjoy a song they will say that the song is bad, and then they will make you feel bad for having a different opinion.

3. They undermine your achievements.

4. They trivialise their hurtful comments. If they hurt you they don’t apologise; instead they say that their comments were just a joke. This can make you question if you are being irrational or overreacting.

5. They frequently point out flaws with your character. You are too emotional, too moody, too loud, etc.

6. They blame you for things that aren’t your fault.

7. They control all of your conversations together. They decide what you talk about, and sometimes they even try to tell you what your opinion is.

8. They call you cruel or hurtful names.

9. They threaten you, such as threatening to end the relationship if you don’t change or do what they want.

10. They frequently use gas lighting to make you feel crazy. You will remind them about something that happened in the past and they will immediately deny that the event ever happened.

Can you think of any other signs of verbal abuse? Let me know with a comment!

Thought Provoking Quotes About Anxiety

 

Anxiety affects millions of people every year. In fact, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting around 18 percent of the population.

Here are 10 thought provoking quotes about anxiety and how it affects people.

1. Anxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far. Jodi Picoult

2. P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it. Danielle LaPorte

3. Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it. Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

4. People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. Thich Nhat Hanh

5. The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness. Alain de Botton

6. Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. Walter Anderson

7. You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do. Eleanor Roosevelt

8. Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment. Grenville Kleiser

9. People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them. George Bernard Shaw

10. Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths. Charles Haddon Spurgeon

6 Reasons To Love Spring

Every season comes with its own charms, but spring is certainly one of the most beautiful seasons. Summer is known for its warmth and winter is known for its cold beauty, but spring is known for being the season of life.

As the weather warms up, plants bloom and baby animals are born. Spring is filled with promise and wonder, so it is hard to decide what I like the most about the season – but there are lots of things to choose from.

Here are 6 reasons to love spring.

1. Longer Days

After months of darkness, the days finally are getting longer and the nights are getting shorter. It is wonderful to be able to travel to work and back in the light instead of the darkness, and the extra daylight definitely improves my mood. It is also much easier to get out of bed in the morning when it actually looks like the morning, instead of the middle of the night!

2. Flowering Trees (And Bees)

Nothing puts a smile on my face like a beautiful tree covered in delicate pink blossoms. It is like watching the world wake up from a 6 month nap. I also love watching the little bees buzz around as they gather nectar!

3. Outdoor Eating And Drinking

It’s always fun to go out for food and drinks with friends and family, but I always seem to have a much better time if we are sat outside in the sun. It seems like the sun puts everyone in a happier, more relaxed mood. I also think that orange juice tastes better when the sun is shining, but that might just be me.

4. Outside Exercise

I spend a considerable amount of time during winter in the gym. It’s just too cold and dark to exercise outside! However I actually prefer exercising outside. I think running through the park is much more stimulating that running on a running machine, and classes are much better when they are in the sunshine instead of a studio.

5. The Festivals

Spring is the season of festivals. I live in Britain, and I’ve already bought tickets to a music festival in Leeds and two local food festivals. I’m also hoping to check out some film festivals this year! Are you planning on going to any festivals?

6. Buttercups

I think that buttercups are one of my favorite flowers. I know that they are small and simple, but I love how bright they are, and I love how the sight of buttercups signals the beginning of spring and all its beauty. Although I do wish my dog would stop eating them.

What do you love about spring? Let me know with a comment!

5 Ways To Be Nice Even When You Don’t Want To

 

In an ideal world we would only have to interact with friendly, kind, considerate people. They would make an effort to get along with others, and they would avoid causing conflict or burdening others.

Sadly we don’t live in an ideal world. Some people are rude, inconsiderate and selfish, and we still have to spend time with them. These people don’t have the same sense of humour as you, they get on your nerves and you sometimes wish you could avoid them – but you can’t.

It can be difficult to be nice to people like this, but normally that is the best decision. Choosing to actively dislike someone can result in you becoming unpleasant yourself; maybe you will gossip about them or encourage others to dislike them, or maybe you will unfairly judge them due to your dislike of them.

It is easy to be mean to mean people, but it doesn’t achieve anything. Here are 5 ways to be nice to someone, even when you don’t want to be nice.

 

1. Try To Be Aware Of The Times When You Aren’t Nice

You may find that you sometimes snap at people without meaning to. It is too late to change that reaction, but it isn’t too late to address why you weren’t nice. It could be because you were tired after a long day, so you took your frustrations out on someone else. Acknowledge the exact reason why you weren’t kind, and you will be less likely to repeat the action.

 

2. Avoid Conflict

If you don’t feel like being nice you might be tempted to bring up issues that will cause conflict, but this will just make the problem worse. Instead focus on being friendly – and if you do want to say something critical, make sure that it is constructive.

 

3. Focus On Common Ground

Even if you think that you have absolutely nothing in common with the other person, there will be at least one thing that you both agree on. Make an effort to talk to them about different things, including music, TV, sports and hobbies. Just having one thing that you see eye-to-eye on will make it easier for you to be nice to each other. Avoid political subjects, as this conversation may end up making you both dislike each other even more!

 

4. Make Kind Gestures

If the person you dislike is a co-worker, ask if they want anything from the shop when you make a shop run. If it is someone you spend time with outside of work (such as a family member, or a friend of your partners), offer to help them with a small task. These small gestures will make it easier for you to get along, and it will help to reduce any tension or awkwardness between you.

 

Minimize Contact

 

If the other person isn’t reciprocating your gestures you should minimize contact with them for your own emotional wellbeing. If you see each other less it will be easier for you to be nice when you do see them, and it means that the relationship will become a smaller part of your life. You may not be able to control the other person’s actions, but you can control your own!

10 Things That Are A Waste Of Your Time

 

We all have bad habits that waste our time, and most of the time we don’t even realize what these habits are. I was thinking about some things I want to stop doing before the New Year, so I decided to make a list that most people will probably be able to relate to.

Here are 10 things that are a waste of your time.

 

1. Asking lots of people for their opinions about something when you have already decided what you are going to do.

2. Arguing with people you’ve never met on the internet.

3. Staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

4. Procrastinating and making excuses. We’ve all done it, but it makes the task seem much more awful and it makes you feel guilty.

5. Putting makeup on before a workout.

6. Complaining about something that you cannot control. It is out of your hands, so you shouldn’t waste time thinking about it.

7. Constantly refreshing Facebook and Instagram when you are bored (or procrastinating!). Do something that is fun instead of waiting for updates about other people’s lives.

8. Worrying about the things that could go wrong. It will turn you into a fearful person – and sometimes risks are worth it!

9. Helping or spending time with people who don’t respect you or treat you well.

10. Wishing you could change the past. It’s never going to happen, but you can change the future.

What do you think of this list? What do you think is a waste of time? Let me know with a comment! J

 

My Favorite Quotes About Wisdom

 

Do you think that you are wise? Many people like to imagine that they are, but I think that the wisest people don’t think they are wise at all – instead they are aware of how little they know!

Here are my favorite quotes about wisdom. Which one is your favorite? Let me know with a comment – I love to hear from you!

Think before you speak. Read before you think. Fran Lebowitz

Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom. Thomas Jefferson

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle

Turn your wounds into wisdom. Oprah Winfrey

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Lao Tzu

All of us, at certain moments of our lives, need to take advice and to receive help from other people. Alexis Carrel

If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. Michael Jordan

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Aristotle

It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen. John Wooden

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing. Socrates
Which quote is your favorite? Let me know with a comment – I love to hear from you! 🙂