5 Ways To Be Nice Even When You Don’t Want To

 

In an ideal world we would only have to interact with friendly, kind, considerate people. They would make an effort to get along with others, and they would avoid causing conflict or burdening others.

Sadly we don’t live in an ideal world. Some people are rude, inconsiderate and selfish, and we still have to spend time with them. These people don’t have the same sense of humour as you, they get on your nerves and you sometimes wish you could avoid them – but you can’t.

It can be difficult to be nice to people like this, but normally that is the best decision. Choosing to actively dislike someone can result in you becoming unpleasant yourself; maybe you will gossip about them or encourage others to dislike them, or maybe you will unfairly judge them due to your dislike of them.

It is easy to be mean to mean people, but it doesn’t achieve anything. Here are 5 ways to be nice to someone, even when you don’t want to be nice.

 

1. Try To Be Aware Of The Times When You Aren’t Nice

You may find that you sometimes snap at people without meaning to. It is too late to change that reaction, but it isn’t too late to address why you weren’t nice. It could be because you were tired after a long day, so you took your frustrations out on someone else. Acknowledge the exact reason why you weren’t kind, and you will be less likely to repeat the action.

 

2. Avoid Conflict

If you don’t feel like being nice you might be tempted to bring up issues that will cause conflict, but this will just make the problem worse. Instead focus on being friendly – and if you do want to say something critical, make sure that it is constructive.

 

3. Focus On Common Ground

Even if you think that you have absolutely nothing in common with the other person, there will be at least one thing that you both agree on. Make an effort to talk to them about different things, including music, TV, sports and hobbies. Just having one thing that you see eye-to-eye on will make it easier for you to be nice to each other. Avoid political subjects, as this conversation may end up making you both dislike each other even more!

 

4. Make Kind Gestures

If the person you dislike is a co-worker, ask if they want anything from the shop when you make a shop run. If it is someone you spend time with outside of work (such as a family member, or a friend of your partners), offer to help them with a small task. These small gestures will make it easier for you to get along, and it will help to reduce any tension or awkwardness between you.

 

Minimize Contact

 

If the other person isn’t reciprocating your gestures you should minimize contact with them for your own emotional wellbeing. If you see each other less it will be easier for you to be nice when you do see them, and it means that the relationship will become a smaller part of your life. You may not be able to control the other person’s actions, but you can control your own!

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10 Things That Are A Waste Of Your Time

 

We all have bad habits that waste our time, and most of the time we don’t even realize what these habits are. I was thinking about some things I want to stop doing before the New Year, so I decided to make a list that most people will probably be able to relate to.

Here are 10 things that are a waste of your time.

 

1. Asking lots of people for their opinions about something when you have already decided what you are going to do.

2. Arguing with people you’ve never met on the internet.

3. Staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

4. Procrastinating and making excuses. We’ve all done it, but it makes the task seem much more awful and it makes you feel guilty.

5. Putting makeup on before a workout.

6. Complaining about something that you cannot control. It is out of your hands, so you shouldn’t waste time thinking about it.

7. Constantly refreshing Facebook and Instagram when you are bored (or procrastinating!). Do something that is fun instead of waiting for updates about other people’s lives.

8. Worrying about the things that could go wrong. It will turn you into a fearful person – and sometimes risks are worth it!

9. Helping or spending time with people who don’t respect you or treat you well.

10. Wishing you could change the past. It’s never going to happen, but you can change the future.

What do you think of this list? What do you think is a waste of time? Let me know with a comment! J

 

10 Quotes About Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is an essential part of happiness; without it, you cannot love yourself. Here are 10 quotes that I really like about self-esteem:

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” Louise L. Hay

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” Mark Twain

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” William James

“When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” Jodi Picoult

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.” Dan Coppersmith

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” Marilyn Monroe

“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” Warsan Shire

 

Do you think that you have good or bad self-esteem? Let me know with a comment!

HOW TO BE BRAVE

People aren’t born brave – it is a skill we gain over time as we go through different life experiences. If you want to be a braver person, you can practise by thinking about fear and challenging yourself in different ways.

Here are 8 things you can do to be a more courageous person.

 

Accept that you have fears. Everyone has fears, including the bravest people. Don’t push away your fear; be honest with yourself and accept that some things make you feel scared.

 

Name what you are afraid of. Lots of people don’t really know what they are scared of, and the uncertainty can make you a more fearful person. Say it out loud – for example, someone might say “I’m scared of quitting my job. I don’t like working there and it makes me feel stressed, but the idea of quitting make me feel even more stressed. I’m worried I won’t be able to find another job, or that I’ll find another job I don’t like.”

 

Challenge your fears. We often get stuck in negative ways of thinking, and when we actually challenge these fears we realize that we have distorted them in our minds. Ask yourself; Why do I fear this? Is it rational? Is this fear holding me back?

 

Remember that you have control. You can’t stop being scared of something, but you can control how you handle that fear.

 

Consider engaging with your fear. Sometimes the best way to face a problem is head-on. Don’t run away from your fears; confront them if you can.

 

Don’t become disheartened if things don’t always go smoothly. Everyone goes through unpleasant experiences, including the bravest among us.

 

Choose a brave role model. Imagine how they would deal with the things that scare you, and this may inspire you to act in the same way.

 

Be brave for 30 seconds. You can do anything for 30 seconds.

 

I’m not always a brave person, but I do try to be! What do you think of this list? Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

GET MOTIVATED WITH 15 QUOTES ABOUT HARD WORK AND SUCCESS

Sometimes it can be tough to push yourself to achieve your goals. If you are having an off day and you need a dose of motivation, check out these 15 quotes about hard work and success.

Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out. John Wooden

Entrepreneurs average 3.8 failures before final success. What sets the successful ones apart is their amazing persistence. Lisa M. Amos

I say luck is when an opportunity comes along and you’re prepared for it. Denzel Washington

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. Winston Churchill

I’m a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn’t have the heart to let him down. Abraham Lincoln

Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together. Marilyn Monroe

Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. Rumi

The best revenge is massive success. Frank Sinatra

All things are difficult before they are easy. Thomas Fuller

The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus. Bruce Lee

Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. Epictetus

The starting point of all achievement is desire. Napoleon Hill

I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have. Thomas Jefferson

If you have no critics you’ll likely have no success. Malcolm X

Victory is always possible for the person who refuses to stop fighting. Napoleon Hill

HOW TO STAND OUT AT WORK

Sometimes the biggest challenge isn’t being going at your job – it is standing out. Sometimes people feel like their achievements aren’t being acknowledged at work, which can be very frustrating.

There are also lots of advantages to standing out – you are more likely to be chosen for a promotion or a pay raise.

Here are 5 tips to help you stand out at work.

 

Speak up in meetings. Meetings often feel like a huge waste of time, but they do give you the opportunity to interact with your bosses. Try to participate in every meeting, even if it is just one or two comments.

Speak to people who you don’t directly work with. Don’t just talk to your immediate team unless you want to go under the radar. Speak to other teams that you work with and your bosses – this way, other people are much more likely to notice if you are working hard.

Make sure that you bring something to the table. Imagine you were replaced by someone with the relevant qualifications tomorrow – do you think that they would do a better job? If you want to stand out, you have to be a great candidate who brings something to the table, instead of taking something away.

Turn all of your work in on time. Boring, but true.

Do things without being asked. No-one wants to work for free, but the people who go above and beyond are always more memorable than the slackers. It is important to mention the completed task to your bosses later so that they know it was you – if not, they may assume it was someone else. Mention the task briefly and move on so you don’t come across as braggy.

12 WAYS TO SHOW LOVE WITHOUT SPENDING MONEY

 

If money was no object, it would be very easy to freely express our love with expensive gifts.

Sadly most of us don’t have lots of money to spend on others. After bills, rent and food, there is very little left over – but that doesn’t mean you don’t want to show your loved ones that you care.

Here are 12 easy ways to show love without spending money.

1. Make them a mixed CD with songs you know they enjoy, and a few songs you think they will like.

2. Dedicate a blog post to them.

3. Ask them to re-tell their favorite story. You know they love telling it – and you love hearing it too.

4. Ask if they need any help with their day-to-day responsibilities – simply picking up their children from school one day could really help them.

5. Give them a book that you have already read that you think they will enjoy and learn from.

6. Thank them for helping you to grow as a person. Maybe you are more compassionate for knowing them, or maybe you are less of a push-over.

7. Cook them dinner. Everyone loves a delicious, home-cooked meal!

8. Let them choose how you spend the day. Even if it isn’t really your thing, try to see it through their eyes so you can have a great day too.

9. Let them be right, even if they are not. Who cares?

10. Look out for someone they care about.

11. Make a sacrifice so you can spend time with them. Instead of spending a night on the sofa, save the whole night for them. Drop by with a film, some drinks and some snacks.

12. Be childish together. Go to the park and eat ice-cream together.