4 Ways To Communicate With Stubborn Friends And Family Members

Long-term friends and family members are important to everyone. For most people, it feels great knowing that there are people in their lives who will always stick by them – even if they don’t always see eye to eye!

After years and years of knowing someone, you’re bound to disagree on something. This shouldn’t ruin your friendship, but sometimes it can be difficult to disagree with stubborn people without creating tension.

If you can relate to this, here are 4 tips to help you communicate effectively with your stubborn friends and family members.

 

1. Find Some Common Ground

The more someone disagrees with us, the more stubborn we become. If you want a stubborn person to see where you are coming from, start by finding some common ground. You don’t need to become a pushover and agree with their argument – just put the focus of the conversation on something you will both agree with. For instance, you could say “I know we don’t see eye to eye on this subject, but I hope that we can still go out for food after this conversation. Where do you want to go?” This will help to diffuse the tense situation.

 

2. Don’t Attack Or Blame

If someone feels backed into a corner, they become emotional and defensive. This means that they are more likely to attack and blame the other person, turning the disagreement into an argument, which is harder to resolve.

Instead of blaming, be honest. For example, instead of saying “You never do anything around the house,” you could say “I did a lot of tidying up last night. I’m really tired now – will you help me tonight?” This will help the other person to see your point, while diffusing the tension.

 

3. Don’t Focus On Proving Your Point

Sometimes disagreements end up going round and round in circles, because one person is only focused on proving their point. Instead of moving forward, they get sucked in and they won’t stop until the other person sees their point.

Don’t let yourself get caught in this emotional trap. Take a deep breath and focus on communication, rather than blindly proving a point. Ask the other person how they feel, and bring the subject back to the main issue.

 

4. Try To Listen And Ask Questions

Most arguments are caused because one person can’t see the other person’s perspective. If you want to resolve the issue, you should focus on listening and asking questions so that you can understand the other person’s point. The simple act of you trying to understand them should help them to calm down and relax, so that you can talk honestly and openly without tension.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

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12 MORE WAYS TO SHOW LOVE WITHOUT SPENDING MONEY

Many people say that if they won the lottery, they would take all of their loved ones abroad. People love to treat the people they care about, and nothing is better than a big holiday together!

But what if you haven’t won the lottery? Most people can’t afford to spend lots of money on their friends, but they still want to show them that they are loved and appreciated.

Here are 12 more easy ways to show love without spending money.

1. Invite them out with your other friends. Everyone loves to feel included!

2. Send them a funny video on YouTube that you know will make them crack up.

3. Compliment something many people don’t acknowledge, like their impressive work ethic or ability to always be fair and reasonable.

4. Send them a picture of you two together so you can reminisce on the awesome memories.

5. Notice and congratulate them whenever they work hard for something.

6. Be there for them when they are upset or angry. Listen to them talk, and offer advice when they are ready.

7. Make them a home-made card and write a meaningful note inside. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t look amazing – it is the thought that counts, and it is likely that your friend will treasure it forever.

8. Ask them how they are every time you see them. Always take the time to listen to their answer, and look out for any signs that they may be having a tough day.

9. Ask how their big day went. Everyone has presentations, projects and deadlines, and some days are tougher than others. It always feels great to know that someone is silently supporting you when you having an eventful/hard day.

10. Bring their favorite snack whenever you meet up with them as a surprise.

11. Remember the little things that they tell you.

12. Tell them “I love you.”

12 WAYS TO SHOW LOVE WITHOUT SPENDING MONEY

 

If money was no object, it would be very easy to freely express our love with expensive gifts.

Sadly most of us don’t have lots of money to spend on others. After bills, rent and food, there is very little left over – but that doesn’t mean you don’t want to show your loved ones that you care.

Here are 12 easy ways to show love without spending money.

1. Make them a mixed CD with songs you know they enjoy, and a few songs you think they will like.

2. Dedicate a blog post to them.

3. Ask them to re-tell their favorite story. You know they love telling it – and you love hearing it too.

4. Ask if they need any help with their day-to-day responsibilities – simply picking up their children from school one day could really help them.

5. Give them a book that you have already read that you think they will enjoy and learn from.

6. Thank them for helping you to grow as a person. Maybe you are more compassionate for knowing them, or maybe you are less of a push-over.

7. Cook them dinner. Everyone loves a delicious, home-cooked meal!

8. Let them choose how you spend the day. Even if it isn’t really your thing, try to see it through their eyes so you can have a great day too.

9. Let them be right, even if they are not. Who cares?

10. Look out for someone they care about.

11. Make a sacrifice so you can spend time with them. Instead of spending a night on the sofa, save the whole night for them. Drop by with a film, some drinks and some snacks.

12. Be childish together. Go to the park and eat ice-cream together.