5 Awesome Parts Of Being Single

Society often portrays single people as unhappy and lonely, but this is rarely the case. Most people who are single are single through their own choice, and there are a lot of single people; according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, singles make up 50.2% of the population in the United States. This means there are more single adults in the US than adults in relationships!

If you love being single, you’ll be able to relate to these 5 points.

 

1. You Can Focus On Yourself

Lots of people get complacent in relationships; a recent survey from the UK found that 62% of respondents gained 14 pounds or more after starting a new relationship! When you are single, you have more free time, and most people choose to spend this time wisely. From exercise to perusing hobbies, it is easier to focus on yourself and grow as a person when you are single.

 

2. You Can See Your Friends Whenever

Lots of people in relationships see their friends regularly, but others don’t – especially if they have recently had children. Relationships require people to sacrifice their personal freedom and free time, but single people can do as they please. This means they can see their friends whenever they want!

 

3. You Are Holding Out For A Good Match

Most people know this depressing statistic; almost 50% of marriages in America end in failure. Lots of people settle for someone who isn’t right because they feel lonely or unattractive, but these are the wrong reasons to start a relationship. As a single, you can hold out for the perfect person who you really want to be with.

 

4. You Become More Self Reliant

We’ve all been through an awful break-up that left us devastated. During this time, the idea of being single and independent is awful, as you believe that you need the other person to be happy. As a happy singleton, you know that you can rely on yourself. You make sure you have fun, you feed yourself, you go to work – and you do it all yourself, without needing the support of someone else.

 

5. You Can Do Whatever You Want To Do

How do you think your partner would feel if you decided to go for a month-long trip to Thailand? They might not be too happy if you don’t include them, which is reasonable. As a single person, you don’t have to check with someone else before you make life-changing decisions. It is very freeing to not have to consider the needs of others!

What do you think about this article? I think there are benefits to both being in a relationship and being single. Let me know with a comment!

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How To Make Friends

Do you want to make new friends? If you do, you’re not alone. There are lots of reasons why people want to make friends, such as;

  • They moved to a new city and they don’t know anyone yet.
  • Most of their friends moved away for work or University.
  • They have been in a long term relationship for a long time and they let their friends drop out of the picture.
  • They feel like they have nothing in common with their current friends.
  • They used to enjoy being alone, but now they often feel lonely and they would like someone to reach out to.
  • Whatever your reason, it is easy to make friends if you try. Here 6 tips to help you make new friends.

 

1. Think About What Kind Of Friends You Want

Before you get out there and try to actively make friends, it can be useful to think about why you need new friends. Do you want someone to go out dancing with at the weekend? Do you want new friends because you are lonely? Do you want a friend you can go to the gym with? This will help you to decide where to look for new friends, so that you find the right people for you.

 

2. Spend Time With People Who Have Lots Of Friends

One of the easiest ways to meet new people in a relaxed setting is to hang around with someone who already has a lot of friends. Think about your current friends and acquaintances; do you know anyone who is a social butterfly, or who is popular in certain circles?

 

3. Look For Friends At Work Or School

The people you spend the most time with are normally work colleagues or classmates.  Do you already have a connection with one of your classmates or colleagues, such as a shared interest in spots? If so, make the effort to ask them to hang out after work. If that idea makes you feel nervous, you can take the pressure off by organizing a group hangout with your colleagues or classmates.

 

4. Join Meet Up Pages And Social Networks

Have a look online and see if your city has a meet-up page. Most cities do, and people can join these pages to go to meet-ups with other people with shared interests. For example, my city offers a meet-up page with different categories for different people, including “nights out and drinking”, “book lovers” and “freelancers.”

 

5. Don’t forget to keep in touch

We often meet people who we get along well with, but we don’t follow up on the connection. If you meet someone who you get along with, make the effort to get their number or add them on social media. This way you can speak further – you could even arrange to meet up.

 

6. Look Back At Your Old Friendships

Most people have an old friendship that has faded, but they would like to re-start the friendship. Think about your old friends; do you miss any of them? If so, take the initiative to get back in contact with them. It is likely that the other person feels the same way, so this is an easy way to form a friendship.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

How To Spot A Narcissist

We’ve all encountered narcissists, but sometimes it isn’t easy to tell that they’re a narcissist until it is too late. Before you know it, you have a co-worker who is always bragging about their life, or a friend who always makes the conversation about themselves.

If you can relate to this, don’t worry. There are often tell-tale signs that give away narcissism – and here they are.

 

They are likeable to begin with. Narcissists often make great first impressions, coming across as charismatic and friendly – which is probably why they perform so well in job interviews.

 

They often work in leadership positions. This isn’t because they make better leaders; it is just because they want to lead and rule, so they are more likely to end up in a leadership position than someone else. If they aren’t a leader, you can bet that they wish they were!

 

They always make the conversation about themselves. They often do this without any clear link – one minute you are talking about work, and the next minute they are talking about their problems/achievements, such as a break up or a promotion.

 

In all the stories they tell, they are never to blame.  The story could paint them as either a winner or a victim – either way, they will still be blameless.

 

Appearance is important to them. They are more likely to make an effort with their appearance, and they are also more likely to buy high-status items such as an expensive phone or car.

 

Their past is filled with human wreckage. They may have been through many jobs and break-ups, because narcissists put themselves before everyone else (including their partners.)

 

They are more likely to take things personally. If you and a narcissistic co-worker disagree about a future project, they will think that you are against them personally, instead of accepting that you both have different ideas.

 

What do you think about these points? Do you know a narcissist?

4 Ways To Communicate With Stubborn Friends And Family Members

Long-term friends and family members are important to everyone. For most people, it feels great knowing that there are people in their lives who will always stick by them – even if they don’t always see eye to eye!

After years and years of knowing someone, you’re bound to disagree on something. This shouldn’t ruin your friendship, but sometimes it can be difficult to disagree with stubborn people without creating tension.

If you can relate to this, here are 4 tips to help you communicate effectively with your stubborn friends and family members.

 

1. Find Some Common Ground

The more someone disagrees with us, the more stubborn we become. If you want a stubborn person to see where you are coming from, start by finding some common ground. You don’t need to become a pushover and agree with their argument – just put the focus of the conversation on something you will both agree with. For instance, you could say “I know we don’t see eye to eye on this subject, but I hope that we can still go out for food after this conversation. Where do you want to go?” This will help to diffuse the tense situation.

 

2. Don’t Attack Or Blame

If someone feels backed into a corner, they become emotional and defensive. This means that they are more likely to attack and blame the other person, turning the disagreement into an argument, which is harder to resolve.

Instead of blaming, be honest. For example, instead of saying “You never do anything around the house,” you could say “I did a lot of tidying up last night. I’m really tired now – will you help me tonight?” This will help the other person to see your point, while diffusing the tension.

 

3. Don’t Focus On Proving Your Point

Sometimes disagreements end up going round and round in circles, because one person is only focused on proving their point. Instead of moving forward, they get sucked in and they won’t stop until the other person sees their point.

Don’t let yourself get caught in this emotional trap. Take a deep breath and focus on communication, rather than blindly proving a point. Ask the other person how they feel, and bring the subject back to the main issue.

 

4. Try To Listen And Ask Questions

Most arguments are caused because one person can’t see the other person’s perspective. If you want to resolve the issue, you should focus on listening and asking questions so that you can understand the other person’s point. The simple act of you trying to understand them should help them to calm down and relax, so that you can talk honestly and openly without tension.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD FORGIVE

We’ve all heard the phrase ‘forgive and forget’, but sometimes that can be the hardest thing to do. If someone has hurt you, it can be difficult to move past that – but you should. It isn’t for the sake of the other person; it’s for the sake of your own mental well-being.

Here are five reasons why you should forgive the person who you are angry at.

 
1. It isn’t fun to live in the past

There is no point in continuously thinking about past events; what is done is done and it can’t be changed. Focusing on the past will only make you bitter and resentful, and the other person probably won’t even realize how upset you still are by the event. Move on for your own sake – being bitter is like buying poison and then taking it yourself!

2. Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean forgetting

If someone really hurt you, you don’t have to forgive them and become friends again. Maybe they let you down or broke your trust – either way you don’t have to be their friend again. You are forgiving them for your own happiness, not for theirs.

3. Everyone makes mistakes

Everyone gets caught up in a lie or a mistake at one point in their lives. Often these events can escalate and build, and a good person can end up doing something bad. No-one is perfect!

4. Compassion is important

At some point in your life, you will have wished that someone offered you compassion and understanding. Compassion isn’t a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength and love.

5. Because you deserve to be happy

Simple but true!

“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!” – C. JoyBell C

10 THINGS YOU DON’T NEED TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT

Cancelling plans with your friends to have some alone time. Time with yourself is important, too! Put on a film you love and eat your favorite snacks without feeling mean or guilty.

Not putting in 100% at work every day. Life isn’t all about work. Lots of people see being stressed and tired as a sign of being a hard worker, but you should never lower the quality of your life for your work.

Your career choices/life choices. It is your life, and you have to live it in a way that makes sense to you. Don’t feel like you need to change your choices to make other people happy.

Not checking your email outside of work. You’re not at work, so you don’t need to (unless your job description specifically says you need to). Darn Smartphones!

Your appearance. Your flaws make you unique and different.

Ending a bad friendship. You are not obligated to spend time with anyone, and your friends should make you feel happy, supported and loved – not upset, angry or stressed.

Taking a risky chance. Life is for living, and that risk could hugely improve your life – just look at entrepreneurs all around the world.

Saying ‘no’ to people. You are not a machine that is designed to grant the wishes of other humans. If you don’t want to, say no.

Not knowing the answer to a question.

Treating yourself. You work hard (maybe) and you deserve it (probably)!

HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC PEOPLE

Everyone in the world will meet a toxic person at some point in their lives.

Liars, narcissists, manipulators and sociopaths are very good at creating drama and dragging other people into it. It can happen at home, with your friends, or even at work with a colleague.

While their behaviour is hard to understand, it often stems from insecurity. If you have a toxic person in your life, here are a few ways to make sure they don’t rule your life – or drag you into the drama!

 

Don’t gossip with someone who is toxic. Toxic people will share other people’s secrets with you for many reasons; to create drama, to seem interesting, or to gauge your reaction. Don’t gossip back or say anything negative to them, as there is a high chance they will tell everyone. If a toxic person starts gossiping with you, politely excuse yourself.

Ignore their insults. Toxic people love to disguise insults as compliments, such as “You’re brave wearing that – I’d never have the confidence to pull it off!” They want you to wonder about what they said, as it is a power trip for them. Dismiss their offhand comments so they have no control over you.

Ignore attention-seeking behaviour. Toxic people love to be the centre of attention, and often they will act out or behave obnoxiously to gain the attention of other people. Don’t encourage the behaviour by giving them attention – instead focus on the quieter members of the group.

Don’t indulge self-pity. This is the easiest way for toxic people to A. talk about themselves and B. get you involved in their life/drama/problems. Be aware of the pattern and you will never get sucked in!

Stick up for yourself and others. If a toxic person says something nasty about you or someone else, stick up for them. Toxic people often target people who they perceive as weak, and doing this will help them to realize not to mess with you – or other people while you are around.