HOW TO BE BRAVE

People aren’t born brave – it is a skill we gain over time as we go through different life experiences. If you want to be a braver person, you can practise by thinking about fear and challenging yourself in different ways.

Here are 8 things you can do to be a more courageous person.

 

Accept that you have fears. Everyone has fears, including the bravest people. Don’t push away your fear; be honest with yourself and accept that some things make you feel scared.

 

Name what you are afraid of. Lots of people don’t really know what they are scared of, and the uncertainty can make you a more fearful person. Say it out loud – for example, someone might say “I’m scared of quitting my job. I don’t like working there and it makes me feel stressed, but the idea of quitting make me feel even more stressed. I’m worried I won’t be able to find another job, or that I’ll find another job I don’t like.”

 

Challenge your fears. We often get stuck in negative ways of thinking, and when we actually challenge these fears we realize that we have distorted them in our minds. Ask yourself; Why do I fear this? Is it rational? Is this fear holding me back?

 

Remember that you have control. You can’t stop being scared of something, but you can control how you handle that fear.

 

Consider engaging with your fear. Sometimes the best way to face a problem is head-on. Don’t run away from your fears; confront them if you can.

 

Don’t become disheartened if things don’t always go smoothly. Everyone goes through unpleasant experiences, including the bravest among us.

 

Choose a brave role model. Imagine how they would deal with the things that scare you, and this may inspire you to act in the same way.

 

Be brave for 30 seconds. You can do anything for 30 seconds.

 

I’m not always a brave person, but I do try to be! What do you think of this list? Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

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7 TIPS TO HELP YOU GET CREATIVE

7 TIPS TO HELP YOU GET CREATIVE

A common misconception is that some people are born creative and others are not. This isn’t true; creativity is something that you can work on, develop and grow. Are you are feeling frustrated about a lack of creativity? Check out 7 tips to help you to get creative here.

1. Take inspiration from others

is nothing wrong with taking a little inspiration from others –Shakespeare famously took inspiration for many of his plays, including King Lear. A good idea is never a stolen one, but taking inspiration from others can help to boost your own creativity, helping you to create something original yet inspired.

2. Welcome all ideas

Many people ruin their own creativity by being too fussy. Welcome all of your ideas, including the bad ideas and the half-baked ideas. You never know which idea will work best until you’ve tried them all!

3. Collaborate

If you are not feeling inspired alone, team up with someone else and see what you can create together. This will give you unique ideas and perspectives – you may even discover that you work better as part of a team!

4. Do nothing

If you are stressed out and frustrated by your current lack of creativity, take a break. Read a book, , sleep, watch a film, spend time with loved ones – and don’t think about it! This will take the pressure off, and a good night’s sleep will help you to feel refreshed and productive.

5. Go outside

Most of us spend too much time sat down in the same place, and this can drain your productivity and leave you feeling restless. Go outside for some fresh air and a change of scenery – this will give you a break and help you to start feeling creative.

6. Ask for feedback or advice

It can be tough to open yourself up to criticism, but you could get advice that hugely improves your work. You could be too close to the problem – let someone with an outside perspective comment on your lack of creativity and why it could be happening. After all, their advice could spark a brilliant idea in your mind!

7. Make your environment pleasant

Make sure your set-up is distraction free and encourages you to be productive. Make sure it is tidy and everything you need has a designated place. When it comes to music and scenery, everyone is different. For some, music and an open window help to inspire them – but for others they are distracting.

Do you think you are creative? Have you ever suffered from a creative block? Let me know in the comments! I hope everyone is having an awesome week.

20 QUOTES TO MOTIVATE YOU

Quotes from successful leaders, inventors and entrepreneurs can inspire and motivate us to work towards our own dreams and goals. Part of success is your mind-set; successful people are focused and driven, so check out 20 quotes to help motivate you.

1. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” -Wayne Dyer

2. “Nothing in the world is more common than unsuccessful people with talent.” -Anonymous

3. “I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.” -Thomas Jefferson

4. “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

5. “Your problem isn’t the problem. Your reaction is the problem.” -Anonymous

6. “You can do anything, but not everything. -Anonymous

7. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out.” -Robert Collier

8. “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” -Pablo Picasso

9. “We become what we think about most of the time, and that’s the strangest secret.” -Earl Nightingale

10. “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” -Maya Angelou

11. “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn

12. “Real difficulties can be overcome; it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” -Theodore N. Vail

13. “When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.” -Lolly Daskal

14. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear–not absence of fear.” -Mark Twain

15. “If you genuinely want something, don’t wait for it–teach yourself to be impatient.” -Gurbaksh Chahal

16. “To be successful you must accept all challenges that come your way. You can’t just accept the ones you like.” -Mike Gafka

17. “The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.” -Denis Waitley

18. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” -Dale Carnegie

19. “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” -Truman Capote

20. “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” -Herman Melville

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE TOO NICE

5 SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE TOO NICE

Most people want to be nice, but no-one wants to be TOO nice. People who are overly nice are often used by other people for their own personal gain, and they often struggle to stand up for themselves.

Check out 5 signs that show you are too nice.

1. You say sorry for things that aren’t your fault

Are you the kind of person who apologizes when someone else walks into you? Saying sorry implies you were at fault, so saying sorry when you did nothing wrong means you are choosing to take the blame anyway. Don’t apologize for things that are out of your control – instead, graciously accept the other person’s apology.

2. You often feel like a therapist

Your friends are always coming to you with their problems. This is a normal part of friendship and you shouldn’t begrudge your friends asking for advice, but there is a difference between looking for advice and simply complaining. You listen patiently and offer your friends sound advice – but they make no change, and they continue to complain to you anyway.

3. You hate saying ‘no’

Saying ‘no’ to others makes you feel rude and difficult, so you often say ‘yes’ when you don’t really mean it. From working overtime to doing favors, you often take on more than you handle to help others.

4. You always see the best in others

You trust nearly everyone in your life and you often don’t realize when someone has an ulterior motive. You are normally shocked or upset if you discover someone has been taking advantage of you even if it was clear to others.

5. You hate making decisions for a group

You never want to choose the restaurant or bar where you and your friends are going, and you start sweating when your boss asks for your advice. You don’t want to make a decision that someone else will be unhappy with, so you prefer to take a back seat and let everyone else decide.

Can you relate to any of these points? Do you think you are too nice? Let me know what you think with a comment! Hope everyone is having a great week 🙂

4 things you need to do if you hate office politics

Four things you should do if you hate office politics

Do you hate office politics at your work? Lots of people hate the competitive or gossipy feeling in their office, but sadly sometimes office politics are unavoidable. They can help you to move forward within your career and form relationships with your co-workers, and you can end up feeling left on the sidelines.

Check out 4 ways you can make office politics work for you.

1. Learn everything you can about your work

How does your work measure success? Who are the most influential people in your office? What style of management does your work use? This useful information will help you to gain the right skills to navigate your way through office politics without making any awkward mistakes.

2. Know when to fight and when to fly

Sometimes you will encounter conflict in office politics. This is totally fine – the real art is knowing when to stick up for yourself and when you should back down. You don’t want to make enemies, so weigh up the pros and cons of getting involved. Ask yourself these questions; will you irritate someone? How influential is that person? Would it benefit you to get involved, or could it create negative reactions?

3. Take notes from both the people who are best and the worst at playing the game

Some people are terrible at office politics and some people are great at playing the game. Take notes from the people who play the game for their own gain, but also watch the people who get involved to stave away boredom. This will teach you what to do and what not to do.

4. Help others when you have the time

Many think the best way to play office politics is to help the most influential people and ignore the least influential. This is actually more likely to damage your plan; your boss will notice if you only help him out, and the less influential people could get a promotion at any point. Instead help anyone who needs it if you have free time; this way the majority of the office will like you (and also owe you a favor!)

7 THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IF YOU GET FIRED

7 THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IF YOU HAVE BEEN FIRED

Being fired by your workplace is often shocking and upsetting. if you need to scream, now is the time to do it – preferably somewhere where your old boss won’t be able to hear you. You may have had notice or this could be a total surprise, but either way the best option is to pick yourself up and get back on the right track straight away with these 7 steps.

1. Try to stay calm

It is understandable for you to feel upset and angry initially, but your biggest priority should be making sure you have a good reference – it could end up getting you your next job. Avoid talking to your old co-workers and boss immediately afterwards; tensions will be high and you may say something you end up regretting. Remember that your job paid the bills and gave you learning opportunities – it was a great experience, and now you are going to try to move on to something better.

2. Register as unemployed

It is very likely you will be eligible for benefits or help while you are out of work. Unemployment is tough and it can be unpredictable, and registering will offer you a financial safety net.

3. Update your Linked-In

Make sure your on-line profiles are up-to-date and include your recent role. Never slam your former boss or company on social media either – this could destroy your chances of getting a great new job and leave you without a good reference.

4. Update your CV

Make sure your last job is on your CV and check that you have highlighted any new skills you learnt while you worked there – this will raise your value and help you find new work.

5. Check out on-line job boards

Upload your CV to different job sites and see what jobs they offer. Job sites are often updated on a daily basis so you can see hundreds of recent job listings – and employers can search for your resume, raising your chances of finding a new job.

6. Create a system for applying for jobs

Ideally you will be applying for multiple jobs each day, which can get a little confusing. Make your life easier by writing down all of the jobs you apply for, along with the name of the company and the person hiring.

7. Follow up your applications

It can be demoralizing hearing nothing after applying for lots of jobs, but some companies don’t provide feedback unless they hire you. Follow up all of your job applications and you will likely receive feedback from a few, which can help you to improve your CV and cover letter. Also – looking keen is never a bad thing. Following up on your application may actually get you the job.

4 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO YOUR BOSS

It is very useful for your boss to respect you as it means you’re more likely to move up in the company, and your ideas are more likely to be implemented. It also makes the workplace a less stressful and more enjoyable place to be. However there are actually a few phrases that you should avoid using around your boss – check them out here.

1. “I sent the work out last week, this isn’t my problem”

Passing blame onto co-workers or the boss is a real problem for some people. If your team are slacking and it is slowing you down, openly and calmly speak to your boss about the issue. If you need your boss to do something so work can be completed, remind them. It can be very frustrating to chase after others, but it is much better than silently seething about the issue while work is being affected.

2. “Oh that wasn’t a big deal”

If your boss compliments you, take the compliment! You have worked hard and you shouldn’t shrug it off. Accept the compliment – it shows self-confidence and acknowledges your hard work.

3. “This isn’t the way we used to do it”

Worrying about change and trying to stick to old methods rarely bodes well in the work environment. Most companies are looking to move forward in many ways, making technological and environmental advances. It is great if you have suggestions – this can show you are interested and invested in the company, but complaining without offering a solution will only come across in a negative light.

4. “I’m late because my yoga class ran over”

Yoga is great, but your boss probably won’t accept this as a reason to be late. Many people use half excuses which don’t really excuse them from their duties – instead, it shows their priorities. “I’m late today because my boiler exploded” is a totally valid reason, but “I’m late because the queue at the coffee shop was really long” probably isn’t.

What do you think of this list? Have you ever said something really bad to one of your bosses? Let me know in the comment section! I hope everyone is having a great day! 🙂