4 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO YOUR BOSS

It is very useful for your boss to respect you as it means you’re more likely to move up in the company, and your ideas are more likely to be implemented. It also makes the workplace a less stressful and more enjoyable place to be. However there are actually a few phrases that you should avoid using around your boss – check them out here.

1. “I sent the work out last week, this isn’t my problem”

Passing blame onto co-workers or the boss is a real problem for some people. If your team are slacking and it is slowing you down, openly and calmly speak to your boss about the issue. If you need your boss to do something so work can be completed, remind them. It can be very frustrating to chase after others, but it is much better than silently seething about the issue while work is being affected.

2. “Oh that wasn’t a big deal”

If your boss compliments you, take the compliment! You have worked hard and you shouldn’t shrug it off. Accept the compliment – it shows self-confidence and acknowledges your hard work.

3. “This isn’t the way we used to do it”

Worrying about change and trying to stick to old methods rarely bodes well in the work environment. Most companies are looking to move forward in many ways, making technological and environmental advances. It is great if you have suggestions – this can show you are interested and invested in the company, but complaining without offering a solution will only come across in a negative light.

4. “I’m late because my yoga class ran over”

Yoga is great, but your boss probably won’t accept this as a reason to be late. Many people use half excuses which don’t really excuse them from their duties – instead, it shows their priorities. “I’m late today because my boiler exploded” is a totally valid reason, but “I’m late because the queue at the coffee shop was really long” probably isn’t.

What do you think of this list? Have you ever said something really bad to one of your bosses? Let me know in the comment section! I hope everyone is having a great day! 🙂

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How to stop being a people pleaser

How To Stop Being A People Pleaser

Are you a people pleaser? Some people struggle to say ‘no’ at work because they want to advance in their careers and they worry about looking lazy or disinterested, and others avoid saying no in their home life because they want to be friendly and kind.

However, being a people pleaser is notoriously stressful and difficult. You could end up taking on too much work, or end up being taken advantage of. It is important to realize that you can say ‘no’ without letting anyone down – check out 5 tips that will help you to stop being a people pleaser.

1. Set priorities – your ultimate priority should be your own goals. If you want to succeed at work, don’t put your own work on the back burner to help others. Remember that every time you say yes to one task, you unconsciously say no to lots of other tasks.

2. Realize you have a choice – you don’t HAVE to say yes. They asked for your help –  they did not demand it. The answer is your choice.

3. Don’t apologize – saying sorry implies you have done something wrong or let someone down – you haven’t. Before you say sorry, think about if you are really at fault, or if you just feel bad because you are a serial people pleaser. It’s probably the second reason, right?

4. Give yourself time to think – instead of saying yes or no to someone asking a favour, say you’ll think about it. This gives you the opportunity to weigh up the pros and cons, so you can actually figure out if you have the time to help.

5. Don’t offer excuses – if you feel bad about saying no, you may reel off a bunch of reasons why you can’t help. Don’t do this – you don’t need to overly explain yourself, you can just say you already have a lot of work on. You don’t need to validate why you can’t help – a reasonable person will understand that you probably have other priorities, and coming up with excuses is more likely to make you feel bad about saying no.

What do you think of these tips? I used to struggle with being a people pleaser, and often my work would be pushed to the side so I could help others who didn’t appreciate my time. I still love to help others – so long as it doesn’t affect my own work! Do you have any other tips for people who want to stop being people pleasers? Please comment and let me know your ideas! 🙂

4 WAYS TO RAISE YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

4 WAYS TO RAISE YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Do you think you have low or high emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence determines how you react around others and how you treat the people in your life. People with high emotional intelligence tend to make great leaders and friends, whereas people with low emotional intelligence often find it harder to maintain friendships.

Check out 4 ways to raise your emotional intelligence here.

1. Regularly Empathize With Others

Empathy is understanding why someone is feeling a certain way, and being able to let them know that you understand how they feel – so it is a very important part of having high emotional intelligence. If you struggle to empathize with others, ask yourself these questions; how would I feel in their situation? When did I last feel like that? What happened to make them feel this way?

2. Ask Rather Than Demanding

Generally, people don’t like to be told what to do. Even if you feel like you have the right to tell them to do something, try to ask them to do it instead. Most people will appreciate that you asked, rather than demanded, and they will like and respect you more. Of course, in some situations, telling rather than asking is the only option.

3. Make The Environment More Positive For Your Presence

If you make the effort to smile and have positive body language whenever you are around other people, they will feel less stressed and they will associate seeing you with a happy environment.

4. Praise Others More

Flattery won’t get you everywhere, but it can make you some strong friends and allies. Praise people who you know have worked hard and done a good job, and they will notice and remember your praise. It is nice to acknowledge the individual efforts people makes, and everyone appreciates recognition.

What did you think about this list? Do you think these are important traits to have? I think it is important to have high emotional intelligence if you work in a leadership role, or if you live with others!

5 AWESOME GIFTS FOR WRITERS

5 AWESOME GIFTS FOR WRITERS

What is the perfect gift for a writer? You probably already have all of the essentials; a notebook, unlimited pens and a laptop. However, there are many quirky gifts out there that make writing easier, more practical and lets face it – more fun.

Check out 5 awesome gifts for writers below.

1. Smart Sweatpants

smart sweatpants

Writers like to be comfortable while they write – that’s why so many of them work in their PJs. However, these awesome smart sweatpants mean you can be super comfy while still looking like a real, adult grown-up – perfect!

2. Writer’s Mug

Writers Mug

This mug is a quite tongue-in-cheek, but I think most of the writers I know would use it with pride. After all, it is pretty accurate, right?

3. AquaNotes

aquanotes

How awesome is this gift? AquaNotes gives you the opportunity to write down any random thoughts or ideas you have while you’re in the shower. I actually come up with a lot of my article ideas while I’m washing my hair, so I may have to treat myself to this one!

4. Writer’s Remedy

Writers Remedy

If you know a writer who has writer’s block, this thoughtful and funny little gift would be perfect for them. Filled with magnetic letters, this could help them get their creative juices flowing – and if not, it is sure to put a smile on their face!

5. Space Pen

Space Pen

This pen is pretty awesome; it can write at any angle, and works in zero gravity. While most writers are firmly seated on Earth, this pen means you can write in bed upside down. Super handy!

What did you guys think of these gifts? Would any be particularly useful to you? I am definitely going to invest in some AquaNotes!

I hope you all had a great weekend 🙂