How To Be Happier

Would you like to be a happier person? Most people are fairly happy on a day to day basis, but sometimes they think “it would be nice to be a happier person.”

This is because we all face unhappiness in our lives, whether this is caused by stress, financial problems, love problems or even an annoying co-worker. Another cause of unhappiness can be social media, as many people portray an edited version of their life that makes them seem happier. This can make other people wonder why their lives aren’t as exciting as everyone else’s.

If you would like to be a happier person, here are three tips that will help.

 

1. Base Your Happiness On The Things That You Can Control

A common cause of unhappiness is basing your happiness on things that are out of your hands. You can’t control everything in your life, and being sad about the things that you can’t control is a waste of your time as it won’t change anything!

Instead base your happiness on the things that you can control. You can’t make it so that you have a huge inheritance, but you can work hard and save money. You can’t change your body type at the click of a finger, but you can work out so that you are happier with the way you look.

 

2. Be Comfortable With Negative Emotions

Even the happiest people in the world sometimes feel sadness and anger, so it is important to be okay with being sad sometimes. In fact, being comfortable with your negative emotions means that you are less likely to feel them again in the future, as you can choose to rationally assess why you feel sad or angry. This makes it easier for you to think of solutions.

 

3. Make A Note Of Your Daily Emotions

If you make a note of daily emotions it will make it easier for you to be happier, as it will be more obvious what makes you happy and what makes you sad. For instance, if you feel frustrated for a few hours in the afternoon at work, you may benefit from taking a walk at lunch time to give yourself a break from the work environment.

 

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My Resolutions For 2017

I’ve never set new year’s resolutions before. In the past, if I wanted to do something I would try and do it immediately as I thought that I would lose motivation if I waited or put it off. However, there are a few things I want to change this year, and I think that consciously setting resolutions means that I am more likely to achieve them!

Here are my 5 resolutions for 2017. So far, so good!

Learn some techniques to cope with stress. I get stressed quite easily, and I think this is one of my worst traits. This year I will (try to) be calmer!

Exercise more often. I already have a fairly solid workout plan, but sometimes I lose motivation and find a week passing without doing any exercise. This year I’m going to try out a few new sports and classes at the gym, and I’m going to try exercising at different times of the day. Hopefully this will make it easier for me to fit workouts into my daily life!

Speak my mind instead of staying quiet.

Move into an unfurnished house and buy my own furniture. In my experience rented furniture is out-dated and slightly broken, and unfurnished homes are cheaper to rent. Hopefully this will make it easier for me to save up money to eventually buy my own home.

Find more work, get more experience and earn more money.

What do you think of my resolutions? Do you have any resolutions of your own? If so, please let me know with a comment – I’d love to hear from you! 🙂

15 Small Things That Make Life Happier

Sometimes it is the little things that put us in a great mood. Here are 15 things that make life better!

  1. Finishing work early.
  2. Walking home from work when the weather is beautiful.
  3. Waking up before your alarm goes off, and realizing you still have hours left in bed.
  4. Being praised by your friends, family or boss.
  5. Finding money in your pocket or jacket that you forgot you had.
  6. When the elevator arrives as soon as you press the button.
  7. Listening to a new song that you’ve just discovered on repeat.
  8. Listening to your all-time favorite song on repeat.
  9. When you realize that a show you love is back with a new season.
  10. When you see a happy child or puppy in public.
  11. Having a great hair day.
  12. When you sing/rap the whole song correctly.
  13. When the sun starts shining and you put your winter coat away for a few months.
  14. When a package arrives that you’ve been looking forward to. (Today a big box of Twiglets arrived for me. Day = made!)
  15. When you think of a funny memory and you can’t help but to smile.

What small thing made your life better this week? Let me know with a comment!

Interesting Quotes About The Internet

“We are all now connected by the Internet, like neurons in a giant brain.” Stephen Hawking

“The internet could be a very positive step towards education, organisation and participation in a meaningful society.” Noam Chomsky

“If television’s a babysitter, the Internet is a drunk librarian who won’t shut up.” Dorothy Gambrell

“People rely on Wikipedia, and a lot of it is wrong. But because there it is on the Internet, they assume it’s right. Rumor gets printed as fact. We may have lost our critical facility as a nation.” Ben Mezrich

“Oh, Wikipedia, with your tension between those who would share knowledge and those who would destroy it.” John Green

“You are what you share.” Charles Leadbeater

“There’s a danger in the internet and social media. The notion that information is enough, that more and more information is enough, that you don’t have to think, you just have to get more information – gets very dangerous.” Edward de Bono

“The amount of control you have over somebody if you can monitor internet activity is amazing.” Tim Berners-Lee

“Whether in cave paintings or the latest uses of the Internet, human beings have always told their histories and truths through parable and fable. We are inveterate storytellers.” Beeban Kidron

“Don’t believe anything you read on the net. Except this. Well, including this, I suppose.” Douglas Adams

5 Awesome Parts Of Being Single

Society often portrays single people as unhappy and lonely, but this is rarely the case. Most people who are single are single through their own choice, and there are a lot of single people; according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, singles make up 50.2% of the population in the United States. This means there are more single adults in the US than adults in relationships!

If you love being single, you’ll be able to relate to these 5 points.

 

1. You Can Focus On Yourself

Lots of people get complacent in relationships; a recent survey from the UK found that 62% of respondents gained 14 pounds or more after starting a new relationship! When you are single, you have more free time, and most people choose to spend this time wisely. From exercise to perusing hobbies, it is easier to focus on yourself and grow as a person when you are single.

 

2. You Can See Your Friends Whenever

Lots of people in relationships see their friends regularly, but others don’t – especially if they have recently had children. Relationships require people to sacrifice their personal freedom and free time, but single people can do as they please. This means they can see their friends whenever they want!

 

3. You Are Holding Out For A Good Match

Most people know this depressing statistic; almost 50% of marriages in America end in failure. Lots of people settle for someone who isn’t right because they feel lonely or unattractive, but these are the wrong reasons to start a relationship. As a single, you can hold out for the perfect person who you really want to be with.

 

4. You Become More Self Reliant

We’ve all been through an awful break-up that left us devastated. During this time, the idea of being single and independent is awful, as you believe that you need the other person to be happy. As a happy singleton, you know that you can rely on yourself. You make sure you have fun, you feed yourself, you go to work – and you do it all yourself, without needing the support of someone else.

 

5. You Can Do Whatever You Want To Do

How do you think your partner would feel if you decided to go for a month-long trip to Thailand? They might not be too happy if you don’t include them, which is reasonable. As a single person, you don’t have to check with someone else before you make life-changing decisions. It is very freeing to not have to consider the needs of others!

What do you think about this article? I think there are benefits to both being in a relationship and being single. Let me know with a comment!

4 Ways To Communicate With Stubborn Friends And Family Members

Long-term friends and family members are important to everyone. For most people, it feels great knowing that there are people in their lives who will always stick by them – even if they don’t always see eye to eye!

After years and years of knowing someone, you’re bound to disagree on something. This shouldn’t ruin your friendship, but sometimes it can be difficult to disagree with stubborn people without creating tension.

If you can relate to this, here are 4 tips to help you communicate effectively with your stubborn friends and family members.

 

1. Find Some Common Ground

The more someone disagrees with us, the more stubborn we become. If you want a stubborn person to see where you are coming from, start by finding some common ground. You don’t need to become a pushover and agree with their argument – just put the focus of the conversation on something you will both agree with. For instance, you could say “I know we don’t see eye to eye on this subject, but I hope that we can still go out for food after this conversation. Where do you want to go?” This will help to diffuse the tense situation.

 

2. Don’t Attack Or Blame

If someone feels backed into a corner, they become emotional and defensive. This means that they are more likely to attack and blame the other person, turning the disagreement into an argument, which is harder to resolve.

Instead of blaming, be honest. For example, instead of saying “You never do anything around the house,” you could say “I did a lot of tidying up last night. I’m really tired now – will you help me tonight?” This will help the other person to see your point, while diffusing the tension.

 

3. Don’t Focus On Proving Your Point

Sometimes disagreements end up going round and round in circles, because one person is only focused on proving their point. Instead of moving forward, they get sucked in and they won’t stop until the other person sees their point.

Don’t let yourself get caught in this emotional trap. Take a deep breath and focus on communication, rather than blindly proving a point. Ask the other person how they feel, and bring the subject back to the main issue.

 

4. Try To Listen And Ask Questions

Most arguments are caused because one person can’t see the other person’s perspective. If you want to resolve the issue, you should focus on listening and asking questions so that you can understand the other person’s point. The simple act of you trying to understand them should help them to calm down and relax, so that you can talk honestly and openly without tension.

Do you have any other tips? Let me know with a comment!

25 Ways To Save Money On A Day-To-Day Basis

  1. Carry a bottle of water with you when you go out, so you are less likely to buy an expensive drink.
  2. Try to avoid bulk buying food that is perishable, even if it is on sale. The most expensive food you buy is the food you throw out.
  3. Go vegetarian for a few days a week to save money on meal costs.
  4. Eat leftovers for lunch instead of buying more food.
  5. Switch to energy efficient light bulbs.
  6. Carry less money in your purse while you’re out and about – and try to leave your credit card at home if you aren’t planning on shopping.
  7. Throw a swap party with your friends. You can swap clothes, household items, vouchers – anything you can think of!
  8. Need something new? Consider buying a second hand version to save money.
  9. Don’t watch much TV? Consider getting rid of your TV license and replacing it with Netflix or Hulu.
  10. Only do full loads of laundry.
  11. Check your cell phone plan to see if you could move to a cheaper plan with less offers.
  12. Bike to your destination, instead of driving or getting the bus.
  13. Wash your car at home, instead of paying someone else to do it.
  14. Need to get a taxi? Make sure it’s an Uber as they are often more cost effective.
  15. Replace expensive cosmetic products with a drugstore brand.
  16. Work out at home or the park, instead of the gym to save money on membership fees. There are lots of Youtube tutorials to make sure you are still doing quality exercises.
  17. Stop collecting items, and start selling.
  18. Spend the night at home with your friends, instead of going out. You can still eat great food and drink delicious drinks!
  19. Repair old clothing instead of throwing it away and replacing it.
  20. Make four times as much stew or casserole when you are cooking. Freeze the extra so that you can have leftovers for lunch at work. This also means you have delicious meals ready at home, so you’re less likely to order take out.
  21. Stop using credit cards entirely.
  22. Do a price comparison for your local grocery stores to make sure you get the best deal.
  23. Cancel all of your membership cards that you don’t use.
  24. Wash your hands regularly. Being ill is expensive!
  25. De-clutter your home and sell the items that you don’t need.