4 Things That Could Make You A Boring Person

Everyone wants to be funny and interesting, and no-one wants to be boring. But how do you actually know if you are boring or not?

There are a few signs that indicate boringness, just like there are signs that indicate that someone is entertaining. If you’re worried that you may come across as boring, here are 4 things that could make you a boring person.

Note: doing one or two of these things doesn’t necessarily mean that you are boring. However if you can check most of the list, you may want to work on your ability to interact with others!

 

1. You Aren’t Socially Aware

Some people struggle to understand basic social cues, and this can result in them coming across as boring. This is because they are more likely to talk about a subject that doesn’t interest other people. They are also more likely to talk about the subject at length as they are unaware that other people aren’t interested!

If you think that you struggle with social awareness, make sure to focus on the reactions of other people when you are talking to them. This will make it easier for you to gauge if they are interested or not.

 

2. You Are Constantly Negative

Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty person? There is nothing wrong with being negative occasionally, but negative shouldn’t be your default emotion. Many people dislike being around someone who complains constantly, and over time they get bored of spending time with someone who is trapped in a cycle of negativity.

If you think that you are too negative you should make an active effort to improve your mind-set. You can do this by saying positive affirmations, going to therapy, socialising more, exercising more and making a conscious effort to be more positive.

 

3. Stability Is Your Only Concern

Stability should be a priority for everyone, but it shouldn’t be your only priority as it can limit you and turn you into a boring person. This is because over time you are less likely to try new things, and you may see change as something that is scary and should be avoided.

If you think that stability is you only concern, try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone by trying something new. You never know – you could love it!

 

4. You Think That Everyone Around You Is Boring

If you think everyone around you is boring you may be a slight narcissist. It can also mean that you are the person who is actually boring, as you are disinterested in others and more invested in yourself and your own story. This may be very interesting to you, but it is very likely that other people find your story slightly boring – especially if you aren’t interested in their stories!

Do you agree with this list? Do you think there are any other signs that indicate being boring? Let me know with a comment!

Signs Of Verbal Abuse

When many people hear the word abuse, they think about physical abuse such as hitting, slapping or punching. However verbal abuse is more common than physical abuse, and it can be just as damaging as physical abuse.

One of the main problems with verbal abuse is that many people aren’t aware that they are being verbally abused. Instead they believe that the abuse is a reasonable reaction to their own behaviour, which can destroy their confidence and self-esteem over time.

Here are 10 clear signs of verbal abuse.

1. Withholding information. They don’t express their thoughts or feelings with you, but they expect you to share your feelings with them.

2. They constantly counter your points. They often disagree with your opinion and berate you. For instance if you enjoy a song they will say that the song is bad, and then they will make you feel bad for having a different opinion.

3. They undermine your achievements.

4. They trivialise their hurtful comments. If they hurt you they don’t apologise; instead they say that their comments were just a joke. This can make you question if you are being irrational or overreacting.

5. They frequently point out flaws with your character. You are too emotional, too moody, too loud, etc.

6. They blame you for things that aren’t your fault.

7. They control all of your conversations together. They decide what you talk about, and sometimes they even try to tell you what your opinion is.

8. They call you cruel or hurtful names.

9. They threaten you, such as threatening to end the relationship if you don’t change or do what they want.

10. They frequently use gas lighting to make you feel crazy. You will remind them about something that happened in the past and they will immediately deny that the event ever happened.

Can you think of any other signs of verbal abuse? Let me know with a comment!

How To Easily Stop Procrastinating

Everyone is occasionally guilty of procrastinating! Here are some very easy ways to stop procrastinating.

 

1. Try Positive Procrastination

If you are feeling super lazy, try using your procrastination to your advantage. You can leverage tasks by writing down a list of things that you need to do  – and then start by completing the easiest task. This methodical method means that you are much more likely to start working as you are setting yourself a fairly easy target.

Completing the easiest tasks first means that you can put off the hardest tasks, but it means that you are still working and getting into a productive flow. Once you have finished the first few tasks you will be feeling more productive so it will be easier to complete the difficult tasks, and they will seem less overwhelming as you will already have ticked a few things off your to-do list.

 

2. Work On Your Mood

If you are in a bad mood you are much more likely to procrastinate, as you are more likely to think that you should improve your mood by doing something fun.

When you are in a bad mood you are less likely to knuckle down and work, as you feel like you deserve to do something that makes you happy. On the other hand, if you are already in a good mood you won’t be thinking about how you can improve your mood, so you are more likely to work.

Try to improve your mood quickly by watching a YouTube video or chatting to a friend – but remember that you are improving your mood so that you can be productive!

 

3. Break Tasks Up

Big tasks can seem overwhelming, and one of the main causes of procrastination is the feeling of dread. The task seems so big that you know it will take a long time to complete, and this can be disheartening.

If you can relate to this, break the tasks up into smaller, more manageable chunks. Sure, writing a 10 page essay is overwhelming – but writing an introduction isn’t too hard, and you can do that in less than an hour.

What do you think of my suggestions? Do you think that they will help you to procrastinate less? Let me know with a comment!

Thought Provoking Quotes About Anxiety

 

Anxiety affects millions of people every year. In fact, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting around 18 percent of the population.

Here are 10 thought provoking quotes about anxiety and how it affects people.

1. Anxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far. Jodi Picoult

2. P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it. Danielle LaPorte

3. Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it. Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

4. People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. Thich Nhat Hanh

5. The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness. Alain de Botton

6. Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. Walter Anderson

7. You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do. Eleanor Roosevelt

8. Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment. Grenville Kleiser

9. People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them. George Bernard Shaw

10. Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths. Charles Haddon Spurgeon

6 Reasons To Love Spring

Every season comes with its own charms, but spring is certainly one of the most beautiful seasons. Summer is known for its warmth and winter is known for its cold beauty, but spring is known for being the season of life.

As the weather warms up, plants bloom and baby animals are born. Spring is filled with promise and wonder, so it is hard to decide what I like the most about the season – but there are lots of things to choose from.

Here are 6 reasons to love spring.

1. Longer Days

After months of darkness, the days finally are getting longer and the nights are getting shorter. It is wonderful to be able to travel to work and back in the light instead of the darkness, and the extra daylight definitely improves my mood. It is also much easier to get out of bed in the morning when it actually looks like the morning, instead of the middle of the night!

2. Flowering Trees (And Bees)

Nothing puts a smile on my face like a beautiful tree covered in delicate pink blossoms. It is like watching the world wake up from a 6 month nap. I also love watching the little bees buzz around as they gather nectar!

3. Outdoor Eating And Drinking

It’s always fun to go out for food and drinks with friends and family, but I always seem to have a much better time if we are sat outside in the sun. It seems like the sun puts everyone in a happier, more relaxed mood. I also think that orange juice tastes better when the sun is shining, but that might just be me.

4. Outside Exercise

I spend a considerable amount of time during winter in the gym. It’s just too cold and dark to exercise outside! However I actually prefer exercising outside. I think running through the park is much more stimulating that running on a running machine, and classes are much better when they are in the sunshine instead of a studio.

5. The Festivals

Spring is the season of festivals. I live in Britain, and I’ve already bought tickets to a music festival in Leeds and two local food festivals. I’m also hoping to check out some film festivals this year! Are you planning on going to any festivals?

6. Buttercups

I think that buttercups are one of my favorite flowers. I know that they are small and simple, but I love how bright they are, and I love how the sight of buttercups signals the beginning of spring and all its beauty. Although I do wish my dog would stop eating them.

What do you love about spring? Let me know with a comment!

10 Things That Are A Waste Of Your Time

 

We all have bad habits that waste our time, and most of the time we don’t even realize what these habits are. I was thinking about some things I want to stop doing before the New Year, so I decided to make a list that most people will probably be able to relate to.

Here are 10 things that are a waste of your time.

 

1. Asking lots of people for their opinions about something when you have already decided what you are going to do.

2. Arguing with people you’ve never met on the internet.

3. Staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

4. Procrastinating and making excuses. We’ve all done it, but it makes the task seem much more awful and it makes you feel guilty.

5. Putting makeup on before a workout.

6. Complaining about something that you cannot control. It is out of your hands, so you shouldn’t waste time thinking about it.

7. Constantly refreshing Facebook and Instagram when you are bored (or procrastinating!). Do something that is fun instead of waiting for updates about other people’s lives.

8. Worrying about the things that could go wrong. It will turn you into a fearful person – and sometimes risks are worth it!

9. Helping or spending time with people who don’t respect you or treat you well.

10. Wishing you could change the past. It’s never going to happen, but you can change the future.

What do you think of this list? What do you think is a waste of time? Let me know with a comment! J

 

6 Bad Habits You Need To Drop For 2017

When it comes to New Year’s Resolutions most people think about the things they want to start doing; spend more time with family, exercising more and eating a healthier diet. However it can be just as useful to think about things you want to stop doing.

Lots of us have bad habits that we secretly know we should stop doing. They can make our lives harder and they often upset us and other people.

Here are 6 habits you should drop before 2017 if you want to have a happier year.

 

  1. Making excuses for toxic people. You would never treat them the way that they treat you, and you shouldn’t have to put up with their unhealthy, toxic behaviour.
  2. Waiting for your chance to talk. Lots of people don’t listen when others are talking; they just wait for their chance to talk. Focus on the other person when you are having a conversation with each other – you might learn something awesome!
  3. Overthinking. Overthinking rarely benefits your life, but it is likely to make you feel frustration and sadness.
  4. Stalking your ex on social media. You may think that you are just curious about what they are up to, but constantly doing this will make you feel low. It also makes it harder for you to move on – or if you have moved on, it may re-ignite old feelings. Stop living in the past so that you can focus on the present!
  5. Worrying too much about the opinions of others. Lots of people need others to validate them so that they feel accepted. Some people rely on ‘likes’ on social media, others pretend to be someone they’re not so they fit in. Be you and do what makes you happy – the likelihood is you will be just as popular, even if it is by a different group of people.
  6. Lying to yourself. Don’t pretend to be happy if you are not. You have the power to change your life and make yourself happy!

18 Reasons To Love Winter

All of the seasons are special in their own ways, but there is something magical about winter. The frosty weather is so quiet and peaceful, and it is one of the most popular times of the year to visit family and friends.

Here are 18 reasons to love winter!

 

  1. Staying inside with a warm drink and a pair of fluffy socks.
  2. Holiday parties with family, friends and co-workers.
  3. The peaceful silence.
  4. The cold weather. Frost, snow and ice are all very peaceful and beautiful – even if they make getting to work a little hard!
  5. Curling up on the sofa with a great book.
  6. Ugly Christmas sweaters. This might just be me, though…
  7. Giving back to your loved ones.
  8. Being grateful for the best things in your life.
  9. Mistletoe (and maybe a New Year’s eve kiss).
  10. Snow angels and snowballs.
  11. New Year’s resolutions. Whether you love them or hate them, it is nice to think about lots of people making an effort to improve themselves.
  12. Work being cancelled because of snow.
  13. Sledging.
  14. Winter fashion. Sweaters, scarves, and mittens are seriously cosy.
  15. Travelling back to your hometown to see your family and friends.
  16. Visiting loved ones for the holidays.
  17. Everything about Christmas, from the food to seeing your family.
  18. The smell of crisp winter air.

10 Interesting Quotes About Attitude

 

Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. Irving Berlin

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. Thomas Jefferson

For success, attitude is equally as important as ability. Walter Scott

It is good people who make good places. Anna Sewell

Take the attitude of a student, never be too big to ask questions, never know too much to learn something new. Og Mandino

We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. Abraham Lincoln

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. Khalil Gibran

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm. Aldous Huxley

We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be. Kurt Vonnegut

Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. Marcus Aurelis

 

Which quote is your favorite?

20 Fun Fall Activities

I promise this is my last fall blog post. Maybe. Probably. I just love fall so much! Lame, I know.

One of the best things about fall is all the fun activities that come with it. The weather may be getting colder, but that is no reason to spend the next few months inside. There are lots of awesome (and cheap) things that you can do outside during fall!

Don’t worry – there are inside activities too. I love spending time inside on a cold, dark evening, especially if I have a mug of hot chocolate.

Here are 20 fun fall activities.

  1. Go for a walk through a forest or a wood as the leaves change color.
  2. Go apple picking.
  3. Go to a fall festival with someone you love.
  4. Visit a pumpkin patch.
  5. Carve pumpkins.
  6. Make something with pumpkin in it. (My personal favorites are pumpkin bread and pumpkin pie.)
  7. Bundle up warm and go to kick leaves in your local park.
  8. Go to a corn maze with your friends or family.
  9. Visit a spooky fairground.
  10. Fly a kite with your children (or nephews and nieces).
  11. Light some candles or the fire and watch a movie during a cold evening.
  12. Make toffee apples.
  13. Make homemade soup.
  14. Pick pinecones.
  15. Eat breakfast in bed (mostly because it is far too cold to eat it at the table).
  16. Make a scarecrow.
  17. Make mulled wine.
  18. Make warm apple cider.
  19. Go antiquing.
  20. Go to a haunted house.

What are you going to do on this list? Let me know with a comment! 🙂