We’ve all heard the phrase ‘forgive and forget’, but sometimes that can be the hardest thing to do. If someone has hurt you, it can be difficult to move past that – but you should. It isn’t for the sake of the other person; it’s for the sake of your own mental well-being.

Here are five reasons why you should forgive the person who you are angry at.

1. It isn’t fun to live in the past

There is no point in continuously thinking about past events; what is done is done and it can’t be changed. Focusing on the past will only make you bitter and resentful, and the other person probably won’t even realize how upset you still are by the event. Move on for your own sake – being bitter is like buying poison and then taking it yourself!

2. Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean forgetting

If someone really hurt you, you don’t have to forgive them and become friends again. Maybe they let you down or broke your trust – either way you don’t have to be their friend again. You are forgiving them for your own happiness, not for theirs.

3. Everyone makes mistakes

Everyone gets caught up in a lie or a mistake at one point in their lives. Often these events can escalate and build, and a good person can end up doing something bad. No-one is perfect!

4. Compassion is important

At some point in your life, you will have wished that someone offered you compassion and understanding. Compassion isn’t a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength and love.

5. Because you deserve to be happy

Simple but true!

“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!” – C. JoyBell C



  1. The Otaku Judge · June 12, 2016

    If someone has wronged me I find it hard to forgive. Forgiving for your own happiness’ sake is a good way of looking at it.

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    • The Twentysomething Social Recluse · June 19, 2016

      That’s it! It really isn’t for the other person, it is just so you can enjoy your life without bitterness. Thank you for reading my post! 🙂 X

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  2. writeshefali · June 12, 2016

    Points 2 and 3 are the ones that I follow 🙂 I forgive because I understand ppl can make mistakes and I don’t forget if it’s effected my dignity. So yes I forgive and NOT forget…. Nice post! 🙂

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    • The Twentysomething Social Recluse · June 19, 2016

      I totally agree – Thank you for commenting! 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

      • writeshefali · June 20, 2016

        I liked what you had written and it connected with what I felt.. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  3. Mahevash · June 29, 2016

    Really needed this right now. Time to reply to that message…

    Liked by 1 person

    • The Twentysomething Social Recluse · July 4, 2016

      Thank you Mahevash 🙂 I hope you feel better for forgiving them.

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